To think calling men “provider types” makes some women uncomfortable because they’re used to settling?

[TheRealWasp]

We’ve normalised struggle love.

What on earth are you going on about?

Think it makes some women uncomfortable because they don't want to think their husbands can treat them better or be anymore proactive in their relationship/family . They prefer to think "all men are like that".

Do give it a rest, @ThisSereneSnail.

It’s pretty clear you settled for someone with the emotional IQ of a teaspoon, and are trying to justify it to yourself because he pays the bills.

It makes some women uncomfortable because you don't get something for nothing in this life.
If a man is going to take on the role of being a big alpha Provider, he's going to want something in return for putting in the effort.

Where has the mass invasion of trad wives come from? I don't want or need anyone to provide for me I'm capable of doing that myself, I enjoy having a partner I share mutual interests with, can lean on emotionally and he on me, find intellectually interesting, who is an equal parent to our child. A lot of the recent threads about masculine provider energy (🤢) have actually been about money.
I wouldn't want to be bought.

Just saying that some women get uncomfortable with the idea of a man providing because it highlights how much they’ve had to downplay or justify doing everything 50/50 even when it hasn’t always felt fair.

They're gonna pounce on you, but I feel that the ultimate feminist act is to ensure that a man will provide for you and your kids 😬

Life is hard, as is motherhood. There's no shame in struggling to balance work and kids etc. Sometimes you need to take time away from work, and you need to know that your man will ensure your well-being

I'm not a trad wife and grew up with a 'feminist' sd - it's better to be a single mum and take care of you and your kids yourself than be with a man who can't take care of you, sorry.

Very similar post yesterday with a very similar three letter word user name..

I think it’s the same tradwife name-changing.

There is a lengthy thread already running extolling the virtues of "masculine provider energy" and similar tripe, identical in tone to this one.

I sometimes feel the namechange option is a curse.

Just to clarify, I’m not that user but it’s interesting how quick people are to assume when they don’t like a viewpoint.

Exactly. This is @ThisSereneSnail desperately trying to convince herself we’re all envious of her for having bagged a knuckledragger.

God, there’s a lot of shit on here at the moment. I think we’ve evolved past needing men to ‘provide’ for us now haven’t we? I think a lot of us just want somebody who brings equal offerings into a relationship. Personally, I just need someone who can at least pay their own way. I don’t want to be bought; I just want somebody company. The rest I can provide myself thanks.

I chose one of the randomly generated usernames Mumsnet offers when you sign up - they actually give you a list to pick from. Nothing more to it than that.

OK, "not that user", why don't you post on that one in support of the OP? You're expressing identical views, sure she'd appreciate the viewpoint.

No one said women can’t provide for themselves, I certainly can. But capability doesn’t mean preference. Wanting a partner who can provide financially doesn’t mean one wants to be “bought” or brings nothing else to the relationship.

Why would you want someone else to pay for you?
I want a man to not be a cocklodger and to be able to support himself, but surely that goes both ways

Someone just discovered ChatGPT eh OP. Having fun are you?

How many women need ro be taken care of and can't function as a fully grown adult themselves? How many women think their only contribution to life is to breed and 'look after their man' they grow up desperate to catch one

I don't get it but it happens

This obsession with who’s who is getting weirder than the actual topic. You don’t have to agree but doubling down on false assumptions isn’t a flex.

I always wanted a life partner who earned at least as much as me. That’s very different to wanting a provider. I wouldn't have considered someone on a low wage with no prospects or drive again different to a provider. I needed an equal.

Not you again. Get a life. No way you're a woman. I'm a sahm so my man "provides" but I still think you're full of crap and that you're expressing yourself as a bot which you might be.

And yet your phraseology is identical, and your spurious ‘arguments’ eerily similar.

I think it's the 'let's have a heated debate' poster. Controversial premise, settles in to moderate and keep the debate rolling. The style gives it away.