Should I be worried a out my 13 month olds weight?

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Born 50th percentile. Exclusively breastfed and shot quickly up percentile charts for both height and weight. She was last measured at 95th for height and 95th for weight.

Some days she looks in proportion, other days she looks very chunky (enough for me to quietly worry).

She always really well. Never had added sugar or processed foods. A typical days eating would look something like

Breakfast
1 Weetabix + semi skimmed milk, 1/3 banana. (She would eat perhaps 3/4)

Lunch
1/4 tin of Mackerel (in water), cooked carrots, 1 strawberry. Maybe some plain full fat yogurt.
OR
Avocado on half slice of wholemeal toast plus a couple of cherry tomatoes, a couple of pieces of mango

Dinner
2 large tbsp of whatever I'm having.
Eg. Butterbeans, courgette, broccoli, olive oil
Yesterday we had mushrooms, peppers courgette, spinach, tomatoes and chickpeas
(She ate about 3/4)

I think her diet is pretty good but she is a milk fiend. She has started asking for milk a lot during the day and at night (still breastfeeding). I offer her water throughout the day so I think it's comfort rather than thirst.

She is a confident walker. We go for a walk every day altogether. And we go to at least one park every day. At home she mostly likes to sit and read or play with puzzles. Except for the hour before bed where she essentially breakdances on the floor and wriggles around until she is pink cheeked.

She is in age 12-18 month clothes which fit her length wise and width wise but there is still some room for growth. She is a lot chunkier than all other babies her age.

HV isnt great and didn't comment.

I don't want to be that parent in denial. Should I be concerned? Does that sound pretty normal for a 13 month old?

I’ve just had a look at what she eats in a day OP. Were you aware that wholemeal foods are best avoided until they are two?

I think it’s pretty easy to miss this little bit of information personally.

The advice is because it fills them up too much and they need the tummy space for more calorie dense foods.

I didn't know this! She only has half a slice of wholemeal bread every other day and wholemeal pasta maybe one a fortnight?

Just swap to white instead. DC, especially small DC do need carbohydrates for energy, it’s just that complex carbohydrates aren’t the right type at this age.

It’s one of those things where good nutrition advice for adults can be very different for LOs

The reserve thing is very true - I have the opposite, dd2 is on the 20th centile for weight, so she’s not tiny, but she is noticeably smaller than most kids her age and doesn’t have much to lose so I end up feeding her 24/7 to try and get her to maintain.

Your daughter has an amazing diet and it’s fine for babies to be a bit chunky, all evens out when they move more!

DD1 was born on 50th for both and shot up to 95th for weight by 3 months, exclusively breastfed. She’s 6 now and has been following that same centile line ever since but her height has now also increased in the last couple of years to round about 85th. I wouldn’t stress about it.

My dd1 was a tall chunky toddler. She remained tall throughout her childhood and whilst still sort of solid through infants (not over weight, but not a skinny little thing) she became tall and slim as she got older. She’s now a tall slim 20 year old who can eat whatever she likes and not gain weight. Much to the disgust of her younger sister who was a tiny, skinny toddler and small child, but since puberty has been more inclined to gain weight.

your dd sounds perfect. Don’t stress.

Try not to fret, OP. And this point and throughout childhood it’s all about stretching wider and taller by varying degrees. My daughter was once 2nd percentile height and 85th for weight! She indeed looked very chunky. We just carried on with her usual diet, which I knew was a good one. She’s now 7 and 50/50. I’m sure it will change again by the time she’s fully grown.

I also hate to be that Mumsnetter, but please be incredibly wary of unconsciously putting weight worries on your children. It will affect them negatively for life.

Hundred percent agree with your last point. It's why I'm so keen for us to eat the same thing. I've changed my diet considerably to include calorific things that I would have never touched for fear of gaining weight. I do believe it's easier to get it as right as possible from the start rather than have to correct me my mistakes later on. I am modelling living and respecting your body, even when sometimes it feels hard.

LOL do not do this white bread is horribly unhealthy and full of sugar.

Rice is a good carb for smalls.

I’m a vegetarian and had a vegetarian baby who was 9 pounds at birth and always hungry - a well-built baby and toddler, slim teenager, now a slim adult.

As long as height and weight match that’s fine. My DD was always very tall too, she still is. She looked chubby at times but weight checks were always fine, toddlers aren’t supposed to look skinny. She is a tall, slim 10 year old now

Honestly (speaking as a mum of 3), I wouldn't be at all worried. She'll almost certainly "balance out" once the ratio of milk to food changes (and being a milk fiend is fine, she's still young; my first was like this until at least 18 months, complete with all the chubby rolls...).

I'll echo those who say they'd be more concerned about a baby who was a low weight. My youngest (about to turn 12 months) has fluctuated between 2nd and 9th percentile over the last few months (she has CMPA) and due to her reaction during a trial for the final diagnosis of CMPA is currently 4th percentile... she's still not filling out 6-9 month size clothing and is a dinky little baby. She's due to start nursery soon and I'm dreading her catching all the bugs etc. because she can't afford to lose any more weight!

Slightly random but if you wanted her to eat some egg, I saw a recipe for scrambled oats the other day (banana, oats, egg) I can find? It had cinnamon and nutmeg in too
I tried it myself and it was really nice

Like others on here I had a chunky baby. My middle was born just above 50th centile and very quickly shot up to above the 95th centile exclusively breastfed and when weaned mainly ate protein, fruit and veg. They had those gorgeous elastic band effect wrists and ankles and little rolls on their arms and thighs. After my eldest who put weight on slowly it was a very different experience.When they got the age of around 3 they quickly shot up in height and became very slender, and still is to this day.

That’s the NHS advice? No whole meal until 2? Nobody said it had to be the cheap mass produced stuff if that’s what you’ve got an issue with.