Reposting for opinons an no replys wanting other opinons

[lulubellaa]

Some opinions needed please.
Got back with my partner been on an off for a few years we are long distance, next weekend would be our child free weekend we would usually spend together he's said he's going away for the weeekend with some friends he's known since end of Jan. I mentioned that we won't have a night together till mid may. I feel like this isn't a great start to being back together and giving this another go one of his new friends is just doing 1 night away for this reason but he's told me he's going both nights so I can like or lump it. Feel abit unimportant in honesty he's went on how much he's wanted me back I get we are allowed lives aswell but how is this showing me he's serious about us when we now won't see each other for weeks when we had the opportunity feeling confused xx

He wants you when he can't have you and doesn't want you when he can. He is toying with you. You're wasting your life on this turd. He doesn't deserve you and you deserve better. He is a future faker. Keeping you dangling until one day when he rings you up and tells you he just got married.

Hard truth time. He's a total cunt.

im not sure where the confusion is? He’s told you, ‘like it or lump it’ this is what you need to do. If you don’t think it’s a great start then put an end to it. He doesn’t care either way.

It sounds like he’s trying to balance being in a relationship with the other aspects of his life, parenting, and friendships etc. Which tbh is not a bad thing, as it’s healthy for people to have a ’well rounded’ life so to speak. Maybe this time he got it wrong, if you had arranged to see one another (although it’s not clear from your OP if you had done, or if you just assumed you’d be seeing one another?), but good people do dumb things all the time, so I wouldn’t write him off based on this one example. If you are otherwise happy together, and seeing something of value in the relationship that makes you want to keep going with it, then maybe try to move forward from this. Obviously this is dependent on him being prepared to discuss it with you, and acknowledge your upset etc. If he’s not prepared to do that then maybe think again about the relationship. But if you get the feeling that he’s not actually intended to hurt you, but just made some poor judgements, in particular re his communication, then try to look ahead, not back.

Like it or lump it !!!
Dump it.
You are wasting your life,and any chance of meeting someone decent and close to home.
Even if he backtracks, stick to your guns. He will destroy your self esteem, if he hasn't already.
It's far better to be single, than to be someone's last priority.

Ask yourself some questions @lulubellaa

What’s the point in the relationship?
How often do you actually see each other? What positives does he bring to your life, or you his? Do you see a long term future where you aren’t long distance and actually together?

You don’t really seem like a priority to him if he can go off with his very new friends over you. The way he spoke to you was shit. Is he keeping you there until someone else comes along??

it looks like you’re on your way to being “off” again. Please make it permanent this time.
He’s only with you when it’s convenient for him (probably for sex) and doesn’t feel much for you.
Sorry op. There’s no happy future here.

Oh dear.
You are his convenience girlfriend. Convenient for food, sex, shelter. Convenient because you can be treated like crap yet remain welcoming, remain compliant, and remain the the background.
Sorry, you need to value yourself as you, not be his accessory. He's never going to be the one because you are not the one.

He wants you around but completely on his terms, you either accept this or not. Doesn't sound as if you are happy with the situation. I don't understand your heading either. But the point is you can't control his behaviour only your own reaction to it.

Thank you everyone for confirming my feelings are valid and justified. I think a chat with him is needed 🫤

The title was ment to say reposting for more opinons as no reply's I'd posted earlier and only had 2 responses. x

Don’t let him talk you round op. That’s the danger if you have a chat. Make your decision and then just act accordingly.
Men like that often hate not having control and hate when you assert yourself and your boundaries. You could end up being emotionally manipulated or subjected to abusive language and comments designed to put you back in your place.
It’s best not to engage.

Think you're all right about him just found out there's a family meal today I could of went too everyone taking partners he hasn't invited me 🥲 i get on well with all his family so this feels another blow x

@lulubellaa

Ditch him once & for all.

He's a prick but you're enabling his shitty treatment of you by being a doormat.

Sorry OP, what shitty treatment, he really isn't worth any more headspace.

He is never going to be serious about you, if you are happy with that and him telling you to like it or lump it, or him not inviting you to things with friends and family, then fine go ahead. I suspect you aren't though, he really is wasting your time, there are nicer single men who'd love a GF. The problem with LDR is you never know if you are the one or just one of many (even if those women only exist in his head), the way he is treating you suggests the latter TBH.

I hope you told him to FO in no uncertain terms and to stop coming back and messing with your life.

He’s just not into you.
Move on. You deserve someone who makes you a priority in their life.

Spoke to him an he's told me he's going end of .. horrible but least now I know where I stand x

Me neither -I’m reading comments looking for an answer!

Ok, so now it’s over yes? He doesn’t care about you and you’ll spend your life questioning everything and feeling like shit otherwise.

@fatgirlswims it's a typo sorry should say reposting for more opinons as no reply's
I posted yesterday afternoon and no responses

He's going off on a tangent really talking all sorts 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

So? What do you want? Don’t compromise yourself for a man - ever.

@Duckswaddle I'm sticking to my guns this has went on long enough 🥺 x