My husband said it was one of the most awkward moments of his life. I think my so called friend deserved it.
my friend lost her dad many years ago. We’re 42 now and her dad died when we were 18. I spent a lot of time with her when it happened. Obviously attended his funeral and was generally just there for her.
we kind of drifted apart in our 20s but kept in touch on instagram as our kids are pretty much the same age. we’d message and keep in touch.
about 5 years go I found out her mum had died suddenly. I contacted her to offer my condolences and attended the funeral. After the funeral I kept in touch and we went out for coffee and few times. She mentioned that no one else who had been in our friendship group when we were younger had really done anything beyond offer their condolences and she appreciated the coffee catch ups and messages.
anyway, my dad died in February very suddenly. I never heard a peep from her. I thought she maybe hadn’t heard and tbh I wasn’t really in the frame of mind to message a lot of people to tell them.
i bumped into her today in the super market and the first things she said was “oh I heard your dad died…” tbh I saw red and said to her “I’m really surprised you’re comfortable admitting that considering you didn’t bother your arse to even message me. When your own parents died at least I had the decency to not only message you but go out my way to make sure you were ok.”
My husband looked at me mouth open and she had the good grace to look embarrassed. I said to her that I was busy and walked on.
tbh I’m quite glad i said exactly what I thought.