Maintain friendship with friend sending nudes to a married man?

[WinterKitchen]

I don't know if AIBU is the right place for this but I guess am I unreasonable to continue a friendship with this friend. She has always said she deplores cheating because her husband left her for someone else. Now she's developed several online relationships with men one of whom is married. They share naked pictures and videos of themselves in sex positions masturbating. I've seen pictures that have been doctored to look like they're on a bed together naked when they aren't really. They're traumatising!!!

I remember when a mutual friend had a brief relationship with a married man and she was very judgemental after what happened with her husband cheating. Now she's doing this and says she doesn't care about this man's wife, it's harmless and besides she doesn't fancy him anyway.

I can't get my head around it.

Good point. All kinds of wrong.

My best friend embarked on a relationship with a man that was practically married. He and his partner had been together 27 years, kids, joint house etc.

All I can think is that she was so damaged from her previous relationship the fact this man seemed to want her more than his partner gave her a huge ego boost.

Fortunately she finally saw sense and has moved on. The 'wife' found out although I suspect she doesn't know the whole truth but her and partner are very much happy families which suggests he's done it many times before.

Why has she suddenly started doing this? Are these men putting pressure on her when she maybe at a low ebb? If this is out of character for her & she's going through some sort of crisis I don't think I could walk away complety in case she needs a shoulder to cry on or some support.

I stopped being friends with someone who kept chasing after or getting involved with married men . I just lost all respect for her.

As a minimum, make it clear you don't condone her behaviour.

I've known her since school, it's hard to end a friendship but I can't deal with this. I think she sees it as empowering and validation.

Who has time for this drama? Block her and move on.

I wouldn’t want to see those pictures even if the man wasn’t married and would be taking a step back.

That said, I have lost count of the number of women I know who have been cheated on who then themselves go on to become OW. No idea why but it’s not uncommon.

I wouldn't end a friendship over it because I think it's her own business with what she does in her personal life. However, I would make it clear that I didn't want her to share all the gory details with me.

This has been on my mind all weekend. If this was someone I'd not known very long or someone at a hobby group or something I'd cut contact immediately. My friend's behaviour disgusts me and I think less of her than other friends. I don't want to associate with people who do this kind of thing. I don't understand why she thinks it's a good thing to do.

Yes I get that you don't know what goes on behind closed doors and all that but I've known all my friends a very long time and I know them well.

This friend doesn't have any other friends apart from me unless you count these men.

It's a weird thing for me. In other respects she's a generous friend but the married guys are a step too far. I don't understand why you'd do this for attention.

There may be a reason why she doesn’t have any other friends but you.

I was the sole friend to this particular woman I’d know since my early 20s who burnt all her other friendships and I eventually seen her for what she is.

She too had no qualms getting with non-single men or just stirring up drama generally between “friends”.

I cut her loose about 5 years ago and haven’t looked back.

Thinking about it now, she fancied one of my exes - she told me after the first time I introduced them - and she's been online flirting with her sister's ex husband who's now remarried.