Partner going abroad in third trimester

[elizabethxxx]

I’m 32 weeks pregnant! 💞 a while ago I mentioned to my partner he should go visit his parents in Italy before the baby comes. His parents don’t speak English so I thought I would stay behind and let them have some family time instead my partner trying to make me feel included all the time. His sister will also be there (she lives in London and hasn’t once visited us since we moved to Cornwall a year ago). My partner was insisting he had to go for this Easter Holidays (this weekend). I was kind of hoping he would go before this as I am quite reliant on him right now (and huge). Anyways, him and his parents were suggesting I go stay with my parents incase anything happens. I’m a bit p***d off really they are suggesting this and he’s not just maybe postponing his trip? Especially as they are visiting as soon as the baby is here. I now have had a family drama as my sisters aren’t willing to stay in their rooms and I’d have to sleep on the sofa at our parents house (which my parents are quite pissrd off about too). I have no problem with staying in my own house except we have recently found out we have a rat infestation and I live quite remotely in the countryside. I suppose I’m a bit emotional about being on my own. My partner is saying he will come back but to be honest I don’t see the point now. AIBU?! Or just hormonal and needy perhaps 😬😬😂😂

Unfortunately that comes with partnering with people from different countries and cultures. Your family is here and you can see them anytime.Easter weekend would have been a good opportunity for him to go given you don’t need to use additional AL and he gets to see his family.
when will he return?

If your pregnancy has been normal so far then I do think you’re being a tad melodramatic - 32 weeks is not the same as, say, 38 weeks. You don’t require round the clock care 😂But at the same time, your partner should be prioritising his pregnant partner over his parents so if you asked him not to go because you’re anxious/hormonal/don’t want to be alone then I think he should have stayed.

Hey! He’s back in a weeks time. I suppose I’m just annoyed i asked him to go a bit earlier and he hasn’t, I would have rather of him gone earlier when I wasn’t struggling as much ☹️. Hopefully the week goes fast xx

Not sure what the problem is really, the baby isn't due for weeks. It was your idea, and it's just a few days.

Get loads of good food and chocolate delivered, turn netflix on and enjoy a quiet weekend on your own (I can't tell you how much I miss those!).

I would have an issue with the rats though! Get someone in asap to treat this. Keep in mind theat they won't come anywhere near you!

I don't think it's an issue for him to go away at this point. Are you otherwise doing things as normal, such as still working full time? My DH has recently been away for a week on a work trip and I hit the 32 week mark whilst he was away. We have a dog so in his absence I was doing all the dog walks and still working full time hours. If your pregnancy has been uncomplicated you should be fine for a few days.

@CharlieAndMoose i work full time but WFH 3 days a week :) . I suppose I’m just feeling a bit insecure, mostly because the last few weeks have got a lot harder quite quickly, also because I asked him to go visit them earlier which he didn’t want too because of Easter etc. I think another issue is we live in a remote village and Iv had quite a few triage visits from reduced movements (anterior placenta problems)! I think once I get past tonight il feel a bit better about being alone haha xx

Sorry OP I don’t actually see the problem. You wanted your partner to visit his family and he is. You live where you live and always have so you aren’t being banished to the middle of nowhere. Your family aren’t being very helpful but you don’t need to stay with them. You are pregnancy not ill or bed ridden. You don’t say you are physically struggling (outside of being pregnant and we have all been there). You do sound emotional
and needy. I suggest you use this time to enjoy time resting and getting ready for baby. You will be on your own a lot of your parent goes back to work and your family isn’t around. Time to find a bit of resilience.

I’m still a mum, not yet a gran, so I think I’m still allowed in here. 😊
36 years ago, I was four months pregnant with our first baby. My husband got a job which meant he was traveling with a musician on tour.
Mobile phones hadn’t been invented then and he worked very unsocial hours in many different countries.
Get yourself a well packed baby bag, a few good (reliable) people on speed dial, fill the car with petrol and then relax. In a few months you will look back on this time as a golden age of peace and calm.
Babies are wonderful but hard work, so can husbands be, so just enjoy it.
We also lived in a really remote rural area. Enjoy the peace, ring the council about the rats and relax. It’ll all go by so fast, you won’t have time to miss him.