I’m struggling a bit with new boss in professional job. I’ve got several years experience but this is a new area for me and they know that. I’m a couple months into the role.
It’s a very small team and the head of the team is very reassuring and keeps saying you’re doing great, ask your stupid questions now, you have months to ask them / learn whereas boss is a little more difficult. A few comments like “we’re going to have drill you technically more than I perhaps originally thought” and lots of, I feel, attempts to undermine me or contradict me?! Eg if I suggest an innocuous team building activity (when this is the subject being discussed), I’ll just get a flat out “no”. Or if we’re having a conversation about a social issue (entirely unrelated to work) and I make a point, the response to a point I made will be “well, obviously, yes”.
I went for a coffee with him and another team member a few days ago and I felt I could see him sneering at me / looking at me like I was stupid from the corner of my eye. It’s really knocked my confidence as I don’t trust him or his leadership style, and we’re incredibly different people (which I guess is neither here nor there). I feel like I present as quite a confident person but this has made me feel rubbish and very anxious, and has set me back a little.
can anyone advise?