At what age did your baby/ child regularly sleep through the night?

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I have a 33 month old and an 8 month old. I’m after a cross section of answers as I’m going crazy with exhaustion!!

DD is almost 3 and has never slept through regularly. We have had a handful of nights where she’s slept 12am-5am.

Is this normal or am I being unreasonable to expect her to sleep through the night?

Mine started doing it semi-regularly at about 22 months. She's now 28 months and will sleep through most nights unless she's ill.

33 months, I just had to work that out.

In answer to your question my twin 2 is nearly 66 months and I’m still waiting 😂

Mine was 3 years old and it seemed he needed to be mentally tired as it was the week he started at nursery. Physically he was super active and walked at 9 months but no apparently he needed the brain to be exhausted.

Completely agree with this. Babies have wildly different sleep needs especially as they get older and so a routine does not address the problems that occur when too much sleep is being aimed for with a child who needs less. Plus does not account for temperament. We had a solid routine with mine from very early, it didn't help him to sleep through. What worked for us was maximizing sleep pressure and stopping breastfeeding overnight. Sleeps through 80% of time and has done so since around 14m, with periods of wakefulness usually as he has needed to drop day sleep or has been teething. I will never know if sleep training would have made things easier, but many I know who ST have had to redo it many times and were unsure how to adapt when their fantastic sleeper started fighting sleep in toddlerhood.

Best sleeper: 8 months
Worst sleeper: 51 months.

Both of mine slept from 11pm-5/6am consistently from around 3 months, some slight regressions over time but only lasting weeks iirc. Dd2 was also an excellent napper, if she was tired she slept...more annoying has been in recent years, now 11, where she's come into my bed in the night, although that finally seems to have stopped!

Neither of mine slept through the night til well over a year. Reliably…I’d say my now 3 year old probably wakes less times per week than he doesn’t. And when he wakes it’s generally a quick cuddle and tuck in rather than hours of shushing and patting! My 18 month old is slightly better than my eldest was at this age. Probably wakes more times than he doesn’t but sometimes self settles back to sleep before I can go in.

5 and a half year old sleeps with me and wakes regularly. 3 year old has slept well since 11 months. For those who started sleeping through 5 years plus, what changed / worked? I hoped school would be the game changer but no luck!

3-4 months... although dh and I had the whole thing sorted to work to us by 2 weeks we thought.....I went to bed 7.30..he fed, changed her and brought her up at 10.30 then slept in spare bedroom...I didn't wake more than an eye at 10.30...i did the 1am and 4am feed and nappy change in 15 mins with pre prep machine. Dh slept 10.30-7. I slept 7.30-1 then woke 1 for 15 mins then 4 for 15 mins but this was only until 3-4 months. We felt we mastered it...then dd hit 8 months and woke every hour for a month to chat....she slept from 9 months until 8 years so far .. My poor dsis didn't get her second to sleep through until 11 years... Nothing you do makes a difference.. it's just luck.

DS 6 weeks, DD 9 months.

have an 8 year old who still won’t reliably sleep through the night…. This thread makes me want to weep…

DS1 about 8 weeks, DS2 about 2 years to consistently sleep through.

8 weeks 10pm - morning, then 12 hours straight from 16 weeks. Gina Ford worked a treat.

9 months for 12 hours, then stopped at 2.5! 🤨

my eldest only woke during the night a handful of times , I was so lucky , but 2nd up @ 3 times a night until 4 months

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5 wks, 13 mths and 8 years!

Normal IMO.

Age 3-4, DD was sleeping OK more often than not e.g. 4 or 5 nights a week, with some tossing turning, getting up for wees, needing to have an adult to resettle her.

Age 5 before I went to bed expecting I would sleep through amd that's she would probably resettle herself if needed.

Age 6 for absolute clockwork sleeping through the night, every night unless ill.

Ahe 6 she was consistently taking herelf to toilet/getting water without an adult and fully resettling herself.

We definitely did not do any form of controlled crying & honestly they didn’t cry much as babies because with GF routine you pre-empt hunger/tiredness & so you tend to know what the issue is (depending on the time of day). It’s not for everyone as you get tied down by nap times & have to set an alarm to make sure you get them up on time. But it really does work.

I loved mine as babies but wasn’t really up for sleepless nights so it was important to me that they slept.

Years ago Mums were told to follow a routine & I doubt back in the 70s 80s you had 5 year olds who still wouldn’t sleep the night. I think it’s also much better for the baby/toddler if they have slept well, otherwise they are going to be grumpy & difficult to deal with all day.

We’re only just there now with our 17.5 month old sleeping through most nights this week.

We’ve done some very gentle sleep training from 10 months as I’m not a fan of the “cry it out” method. Our “gentle” method was going in to her room when she cries to breastfeed, cuddle and sing to her, then leaving for a minute or two back in the cot then going in again if she cried and repeat for as long as it takes. I guess the result of the gentle method is a child who took nearly 1.5 years to sleep through!

12 months. But we did sleep training.
I don’t think any of my friends who didn’t sleep train have children who sleep through the night (at 3yo now).

3 months and in their own room

DS - about 16 weeksold but consistently from about 6 months. Exclusively breastfed, fed loads in the day & just didn't wake for it at night! He has always slept like a log.

DD... did it a bit from about 10m but always inconsistent. She just got gradually better and better until she was about 3. She didnt need a lot from us but would stir & fuss because she needed the loo or had nightmares. She was also ill more than DS for various reasons which impacted her sleep. She's a lighter sleeper generally

DS1: 10 years DS2: 4 months

Oh and i didn't feed either of mine to sleep and did a bit of gentle sleep training/good sleep habits so no dummies, putting them down awake. We were more consistent with DS on routine & sleep habits than we were with DD.

Neither of mine ever did this waking every 90mins thing after the newborn stage. If DD woke at night as a toddler it was just once at like 3am needing a wee, or at 9pm having a nightmare etc.