Husband spoiled Easter bunny surprise

[Sleepingallday]

I bought an Easter egg for my DS weeks and weeks ago. Purposely bought it during a supermarket shop when he wasn’t with me. Saw a dinosaur themed one and had it in a Tesco carrier bag in the utility room on top of a cupboard. Was looking forward to doing a little hunt and the look on my sons face when he found it.

husband has taken it off the top off the cupboard to get to something and didn’t put it back up. DS just went into utility room and found it on the floor, spoiling the surprise.

AIBU to be gutted and pissed off

No its not, it long predates Jesus and eggs, chicks and bunnies have NOTHING to do with Jesus.

You are getting your religions mixed up.

The Easter Bunny isn't real! The ethos of Easter is real. Live that dont keep feeding kids with fictitious entities fgs.

Ref your DH, yes it was careless. I think you need to tell him to make sure he hides stuff in future.

I’m not miserable at all. Just saying that actually believing in the Easter bunny is quite rare.

Welllll... I mean, Eostre the goddess of fertility was, and the 'easter bunny' is a representation of her.

Jesus just got more hype and ousted her, and nicked her festival. If you're going to get picky about it, bunnies and eggs have a lot more to do with Easter than some folks pretending some dude rose from the dead.

(And if you don't believe that version then the other option is that Christians pinched it from the Jewish Passover instead. Either way, it's not looking good for Jesus on the 'who came first and whose party actually is this?' front.)

Thanks for all the replies. DS is just shy of 4, and this will be the first year of doing eggs. I was looking forward to giving him something to be excited about. I know it’s completely insignificant compared to what’s going on in the world today, but as some of you have pointed out it’s just a chance to give them that special childhood magic and memories. Thanks for the reassurance that it won’t have spoiled Santa for him, I think I will still hide the egg for him to find and will downplay the Easter bunny part

I have always thought that too.. and don't get me started on having a stranger visit my house sometime around 24/25th December when we are all asleep...😂

Not putting things back where they belong really annoys me, DH does it all the time. It should have been obvious you’d hidden it.

So what? Santa is not real for goodness sake! I had no idea kids believed in 'the Easter bunny' either.

It's obvious to me that it is parents who care more about these quaint customs than children.

He will still enjoy it OP, but i get why you're disappointed and why you're annoyed. Do you have any little eggs or anything else you can do a little hunt with? To be honest at that age I used to hide stuff DS already had as part of a treasure hunt type thing and then have something new just for the last one!

It's thoughtless. I'm also assuming it's made worse because he hasn't done anything towards Easter so it's all left to you and then he's gone and spoiled a surprise.

Tell him to go out and get him something to replace it.

Full on Donny darko vibes!!!!

OP I’ve never done the Easter bunny thing with any of my (5) and I treat Easter like Xmas. I only have two kids at home now (15,5) and they get eggs, presents, money etc from us and family. Massive Easter dinner the lot. One thing I’ve done for them all and still do (even though the older ones know now) is Easter Saturday night I’ll give a handful of jelly beans to throw in the garden….. on Easter Sunday morning there will be a load of lolly pops “grown” magically overnight. Maybe that’s something you can do to create a bit more fun and mystique to it. I reckon I’ll be throwing jelly beans in the garden for the rest of my life I enjoy the lolly thing that much lol!!!

I haven't done anything towards Easter. What is there to do?

Actually that's not entirely true. I did pick up some hot cross buns when I went out for teabags this afternoon.

No, my children know the Easter bunny is a pile of shite but still very much believe in Santa. But then I've never been an "Easter bunny" person, never even knew it was a thing until I moved to England to be fair! I think it's a silly thing made up because so many people over here aren't religious but want to celebrate all of the Christian events, so take a commercial approach to it.

I mean, if I did the whole Easter bunny shite, then yeah, I'd be pissed off at DH spoiling it, but come on, it's a fucking Easter egg, Christmas hasn't been ruined.

How terrible for your son. I’m sure it’s an event he’ll be re-living in therapy for years to come.

I don’t think that’s true.

My parents did an Easter trail for us and finding prettily wrapped eggs nestled in clumps of bluebells or hanging from the branches of blossom trees are some of the loveliest and most picturesque memories I have from childhood - along with truly magical Christmases.

I was faintly scared of the Easter Bunny himself but even that kind of added to the excitement, given we didn’t have to confront him.

Children have boundless and fascinating imaginations; mortgages and prosaic realities come soon enough. Headlines of stabbings, floods, arson, murder. Why not let children have a phase of their life that is innocent and full of wonder and excitement. They don’t grow up believing it. I never needed therapy because my parents” lied” or any of the other miserable nonsense people spout. By the time you realise it’s a fantasy, you are also old enough to understand your parents were being fun - and often old enough to enjoy giving that experience to younger siblings etc.

I think it’s unfair to deny children some of these wonderful traditions. They were meant to be fun and they were. I pity many children the tedious childhoods they have dished up for them today.

Depends on what you do and how old your children are, obviously.

Buy easter eggs
stuff for easter egg hunt
things for easter lunch etc

As an example.

Don’t let people put you off doing the Easter bunny OP, they are randoms on the internet.. it’s your life, your kids.

Exactly.

The fun and wonder of it absolutely enriched my childhood.

If he doesn’t enjoy it you can stop but give it a try. Children these days are just growing up with the desperately depressing reality of things like global warming being constantly rammed down their throats. I actually think many children are deprived of a proper childhood.

That’s exactly what I think.

You are totally right to want to give him a bit of childhood magic.

If you want to keep costs down, you can buy little net bags of tiny foil wrapped eggs and there are enough in it for a fun trail with perhaps a bigger surprise at the end. But memories like that are some of the most precious things we take with us from childhood.

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I loved the Easter Bunny and finding eggs in the garden 40 years ago, and my DCs love the tradition. They're not fussed about chocolate and are long past believing and the wonder that there are eggs around the garden, but they still want me to go out and hide them.

DH caused calamity when they were 5/8. We went abroad and I stashed some eggs in the luggage. DH was concerned that the DCs had spotted the eggs and decided to rehide them... in the bedroom bin under the liner. I did raise the potential issue that they were risking being binned by the cleaner, but oh no, that couldn't possibly happen and of course the cleaner would realise they were ingenuously hidden...

DH ended up spending an afternoon driving around the island trying to find replacements as it turns out that Easter Eggs weren't such a big thing there and their Easter dates were a couple of weeks later.

DS1 had definitely sighted a binned egg as he was somewhat flummoxed that he was given a totally random egg that was different to the usual types and seemed very set on a particular brand...

The Easter bunny brings a chocolate bunny for my kids. Family bring Easter eggs.

Do people actually pretend the Easter bunny is real?! I have never known anyone do this. It really is not comparable with Santa

That was frustratingly careless of your DH. What a twerp.

Just tell your DS it was an egg you were keeping safe for a little boy you know. But if your DS is good, then the Easter Bunny may visit him.

Then hide the egg somewhere else and do the egg hunt on Sunday as you’d planned 🐰