To stay at home for a week while DH takes the children to MIL's?

[wayondown]

My children are 5 and 6 and I have never had time away from them.

Dh goes on various business trips abroad and he has never had the childen on his own ethier not even for one day.

Planning a trip abroad to in laws and DH has suggested he would take them alone and I could have a rest for a week at home.

1.Would it be selfish to do this?
2 Would the children expect me to go as well?
3,Would the in laws think something is wrong in our relationship ifI did'nt go and would they think it rude and irresonsible?(sp)

Sounds great.PILs would probably enjoy having free rein with kids too actually. My MIL did.

I don't drive so getting to the airport alone etc would be difficult but think it would be better if I was going to do this to let them go alone with DH for the full 5 days.

Will miss them though,still undecided.

Will check with dh tomorrow and see if his idea has changed.

Thinking about it DH has told me when he was younger he went away to his aunts in the sunmmer holidays ,so same thing really.

Also he and his brothers and sister went to boarding schools.

The thing is moondog his parents are'nt really hands on with the children when we have visited previously so DH would be doing everything.

They don't really play with them as such,well MIL does a bit.

Maybe they would be different with me out of the picture.

They would. Guaranteed.

oh i'd jump at the chance!
wish my in laws lived abroad so i could pack off dh and the kids too lol

I do think that the mother being out of the picture can make quite a big difference with ILs. My main reservation is that it seems a bit strange going from DH never having had them for a day (why is that?) to having them for 5 days but they are not babies so I would have thought it was relatively straight forward.

I would love a chance for a week alone and leave kids with dh. Thing is, he works abroad so much that it would mean seeing him even less than i do now.

I did last summer.

Dp took the DSs to Scotland for a week, to stay with his elderly infirm parents while I stayed behind.

It was fab, they all had a great time, I was working that week anyway, and all were happy.

Of course you miss 'em.

Go for it.

I never go out anywhere on my own apart frm when they are at school.
Don't go out in the evenings and so DH has never had the chance to have them for a whole day on his own.
Strange but true.

I suffered a bit with PND for a while and still have anxiety issues so this could well do us all good for me to realise I can be without the children and they will be fine and also for the children to spend some quality time with their dad.

Make sure you take the opportunity while they are away to go out and have fun then!
I bet it will do you the world of good

I bet MIL pitches up this time and really helps he son out . LOL

I think it sounds fabulous...
hehe, I have just send dh plus our 3 Kids plus one of es's friends away for the weekend. They will go camping...
My dh so easily takes time out, used to be more job related...but well...I think I deserve some time free from Kids...obviously I will make some good use of that time and will actually do some cleaning...however...it will be nice to clean without stupid interuptions or the Kids getting everything untidy straight after I tidied it up...
If I could have stretched it to a week I would have