End relationship after a few dates

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I used to work with this man a few years ago, not for very long just a few months. Recently, in January he messaged out of the blue asking how I was. Since then we had been messaging daily and were finally able to meet up a few weeks ago. We have now been on two dates but he has been coming on very strong, talking about meeting his whole extended family, going on holiday together with his family this summer, asking very deep questions. Now I was looking for a long term relationship but I've never had one before and this has spooked me a bit. I also don't know if I am as attracted to him as I should be, as in I don't feel the urge to kiss him or initiate anything intimate. However, he is really nice and funny and we do get along well together. Am I being too picky?

Personally I'd say that, after 2 dates, talking about you meeting his extended family, going on holiday with his family in the summer (which is about 6 weeks away) is too much too soon.

You need to get to know each other before you bring other people into the mix.

As for not feeling the urge to kiss him etc, possibly that will come once you get to know each other better.

Trust your instincts. If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't right. Maybe just remain friends as you seem to get along well.

Well - it's not a relationship, just a chap you've had a couple of dates with. You're feeling uncomfortable with his pushing at your boundaries which it totally understandable. You're absolutely right to listen to your gut.

Knock it on the head - the ick will just get more and more overwhelming.

Remember - you owe him nothing. tell him - thanks but no thanks.

If you don’t want to kiss him, a relationship is surely a no go? And he sounds way too intense too fast at any rate. I’d let this one go OP.

Firstly, after two dates it is not a relationship, it's someone you've had two dates with
Secondly, he is coming on way too strong.

Thirdly, you need to have a degree of attraction, at least to be able to imagine enjoying kissing him.

Fourthly, he is coming on way too strong, unless there is some back story of him having a really good reason for not understanding social norms and cues

He sounds very odd and to be honest a bit in-genuine?
I would not bother with anymore dates

Exactly this

I had this many years ago. I'd come out of a 4 year relationship, and after a couple of dates, he was talking about love, meeting families etc and it completely freaked me out! I felt suffocated, and didn't want to be with someone so intense. We parted ways permanently!! A month or two later, he ended up dating a colleague of mine (not sure he realised we worked for the same company!), they were engaged within 6 weeks (yes weeks not months!), married within 18 months and divorced before their 1st wedding anniversary!!!!! 🤣 I was very very glad that I dodged a bullet and my gut reaction was correct! If the situation doesn't feel right and is moving way too quickly for you, then politely end the relationship. You have had a couple of dates, it's not a relationship and isn't serious, you don't owe him anything.

Trust your gut. If there's no physical attraction and he's coming on too strong about meeting families etc, he's not for you. I'd probably tell him that you like him as a friend but don't see this being more than that.