Anxiety with Mother

[Blondeanxiety]

Hi everyone,

Just wanting to get something off my chest really.

My mother causes me so much anxiety! Is this normal??

Day to day things but even more so at holiday periods. We are seeing my parents for Easter one day, they invited us for a meal. We are seeing my in-laws the day after, my husband invited them to us. It's giving me so much anxiety that we haven't invited my parents to eat at ours. Is that crazy?

My mother has previously voiced opinions about how my in-laws come to ours however my parents always arrange to go to theirs.

Can't decide if it's me being overly anxious or if my mother is right.

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Have you never invited your parents for a meal? What is it you are anxious about?

Do your parents want to come to yours or do they prefer you to go to them? Is your mum annoyed because your in-laws are invited to your house but they are not?

Have you not invited your mum to yours ,Does she have a point about your inlaws maybe she's feeling a bit sidelined, what are you anxious about?

We invite them for other things but to be fair for holidays my mother likes to arrange things months in advance and tends to invite us all to hers so we don't get the chance to ask just them to come to us.
I suppose I'm anxious that she will make comments about the in-laws coming to us and worrying how it will turn into a drama.

I'm not sure what the issue is? When your mum invites you can't you say why don't you come to us instead.

You are allowed to have your husbands family to visit.

Do you suffer from anxiety generally? Because on the face of it, I can't see why having your in laws over would cause a problem? Is your mother jealous, critical or controlling? Are you generally a people pleaser or an over thinker?

It sounds like your Mum likes to cause drama about everyday things such as you spending time with your in-laws.