To think some victims become bullies when they finally get power?

[SnappyViper]

Sympathy doesn’t mean immunity from criticism.

Yes our prisons are full of them.

Yeah of course. Seen it loads of times.

Yes, a small percentage as people who are bullied are usually soft naturally.
I think some children who are bullied in their environment constantly by peers, parents, school see it as alpha and would definitely prefer to be in that position.

Isn't that what bullying is? Weakness disguised as strength

To think? So please explain your own personal scenario that happened for you to start this, so we can have some insight into your reason for starting this

It’s not about one single event - it’s something I’ve seen in various personal and professional settings over time. People who were once sidelined, overlooked or mistreated finally get into a position of influence and instead of leading with empathy, they lead with vengeance. The point of the post was to ask whether we sometimes let past suffering cloud our judgement when those same people become difficult or even toxic. It’s not an attack - it’s a pattern I think is worth talking about.

Tbf it is not just past bullying victims that turn nasty once in power.
I have seen it many times when perfectly pleasant colleagues have had a promotion.

My neurodiverse child was bullied.

She learns how to fit in by copying others. I've had to step in correct her behaviour and explain that bullying isn't OK even though she's sadly seen others doing it to her.

Thankfully she understood it but it can be hard to understand if empathy doesn't come naturally.

I think it happens sometimes.

I see it online where someone's trauma or mental health is part of their brand and treat a lot of people like shit using therapy speak to justify it.

I've heard it happens in some support groups like AA too.