To not be impressed ?

[arcticpandas]

One of my long time friends has lost a lot of weight with Mounjaro. I have told her I think it's great because she was quite overweight so is now much healthier (can walk without having to stop etc).
But.. she expects everyone (me included) to be impressed with her weight loss and tell her how strong she is. I mean she's taking an appetite supressant so she's not feeling hungry and therefore eats less. She hasn't changed her eating habits but just how much she eats (because she's not hungry).
So am I a mean bitch if I think that she hasn't done anything spectacular ? If I know a friend has been following a healthy diet and worked out to lose weight I will say "well done" because there is an effort involved. I have to force myself not to finish all chocolate in the cupboard so I know there is an effort in restraining yourself from overeating but with injections it's really effortless. Nothing against people on them, I think it's great they exist- but don't talk about the efforts you make while being on it because there is no effort when you're not hungry.

Why are they bitter? They have admitted to being on them too.

All they are doing is calling a spade a spade. Congrats on the weight loss but don't make out it's an amazing achievement if was done by using the jabs.

I don’t think you really understand how glp1’s work - it’s a naturally occurring hormone in the body, unfortunately some people have much less of it than others. Rather than cheating it’s putting her on a level playing with other people. That means her now “suppressed” appetite is what regular people feel on the daily.

Would you say someone taking antidepressants, insulin or antihistamines were cheating? It’s the same thing - balancing out deficiencies in the body

It sounds like you really don’t like her much or value her friendship. If she’s being so tedious then maybe it’s time to back away from the friendship. It’s not really to do with injections or not, but how little you seem to like her.

She is being unreasonable for expecting praise to control her weight, for her own benefit (regardless of if she’s on drugs to help her).

weight / weight loss / food is so overly emotionalised (don’t think that’s an actual word but hasn’t been caught by a spell check so maybe it is!). She benefits from loosing weight by being healthier, living longer and hopefully feeling better. That’s it. Good for her.

I wasn’t aware of this - can you link to source?

There are many, many sources out there. It’s one of the reasons medical professionals are starting to recognise obesity as a disease as supposed to being greedy or lazy. here’s webmd www.webmd.com/obesity/features/natural-glp1-boosters

This is an interesting article, thanks for sharing, but it doesn’t say what you’ve said which is that obese people have less glp1 than people who are a normal weight. It hypothesises that this might contribute but it doesn’t sound like there is evidence to support your assertion, unless I missed it? If so, apologies, can you point me to it?

while she is working hard at improving her life (and an appetite suppressant doesn't make it easy peasy if the reason that you overeat is something other than being hungry), she should think about getting better friends.

Apologies, not the best article as an example 😅 the below link has references and links to studies. And goes way beyond my comprehension

pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10341852/#B57-ijms-24-10449

Absolutely agree. The only thing that’s ‘magic’ about it is the fact there’s finally something that genuinely helps people to lose weight when they’ve struggled and failed with everything else. It doesn’t magically melt fat away, or keep the weight off forever. If you stop the jabs and haven’t changed your eating habits, you’re going to put it all back on, so most people DO start to eat more healthily and exercise more whilst using mountaro, just like anyone else trying to lose weight. It’s just insulting to suggest that it’s effortless. But even if it was… so what?! Nobody complains that people using nicotine patches etc to give up smoking are using something to help them, nobody says “oh well, they didn’t really put the effort in because they used patches” so why are weight loss injections any different?

I agree OP.

Losing weight is never effortless unless someone is unfortunately very ill, so well done to anybody who has lost weight. Why should slimmers have to experience constant difficulties and discomfort to validate their weight loss?

she expects everyone (me included) to be impressed with her weight loss and tell her how strong she is.

What does this actually mean though?

Friend: you need to tell me how impressed you are with my weight loss and how strong I am.

Me: really? Hmmm. Have you watched any good telly recently?!

What does she actually say?

If she’s been obese a long time, her brain is probably struggling to catch up to her new body, and she might be inadvertently seeking outside validation because she’s finding it hard to marry up how she’s always felt about herself and lived with her new situation. If she’s someone you like and care for, I’d just try to be supportive and aware that this is clearly a life-changing thing for her, and sometimes people take time to process that.

She sounds very dull. Who wants to discuss a person’s weight? Does she not have any other interests?