School holidays how many relaxing days in the house?

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Came back from a week away and I think Dc just needs a bit of time to chill out at home. However, all his friends keep having playdates, sleepovers, outings. Makes me feel like we don't do enough or I don't give him enough of a social life. Dh thinks it's fine and he needs a bit of downtime before going back to school. How often do your kids see their friends over the Easter break? How many chill/home days do you usually have?

They don’t need to see anybody at all. Time for a change of scene from seeing school friends, especially if they’re not asking to see them. You can do whatever you like - see family, do stuff together or simply relax and they can learn how to be comfortable with their own company.

Or they can see people. Doesn’t really matter either way.

How old are they?

Mine as younger kids never saw friends in the holidays (unless there was a party or something) as it was time for them to be with family. Now as tweens one kid sees friends most days - but it’s driven by them not me. They’ll knock for each other or ask me to message X’s parent. My other kid wants time alone doing their own thing. We’ve had one weekend away and they’ve had one day trip with Grandma, but otherwise they’ve been either at home, the park or routine stuff that needs doing like the dentist, Tesco, hairdressers and the car dealership.

So long as they’re not just rotting in front of a screen for every waking moment I don’t think it matters - I don’t compare to other people, those of us in the family are happy so that’s all I’m bothered about.

He is 7 and I limit screens to 1hr per day in the holidays so it's not all bad. Ds alternates between wanting to do nothing and then asking to see friends. I just feel like everyone else is constantly doing stuff. At this age, Ds is obviously still led by me when it comes to holidays and his social life.

honestly, i cannot wait to see the back of school friends over the holidays (except for parties)

Holidays are family time, they spend time with their school friends 30 hours a week - i do not even see my friends that much!
the exception of this is "home" friends, who are not at school, we see them as and when, I love seeing them as holidays are truly catch up time.

so no, do not feel guilty. Be at home, do errands and enjoy family time. He will soon be 14 and hate you just for asking if you want to spend time together (possibly)!

Surely it entirely depends on the child? Mine like some chill out time but not a whole day… they’d get a bit stir crazy. If they wanted a day at home without seeing anyone I’d happily do it, but they don’t.
My 9 year old has seen friends every day, because she goes out to play football with them on the grass area by our house. My 11 year old has only seen friends a couple of times because most of them are on holiday. We get out somewhere every day though, even if just an hour at a country park.