Sick of neighbours kids

[easterfunbunn]

I live in a terraced house and next door I live next door to 3 kids who are 6,7 and 9.

Last few weeks they have been kicking their football amongst other toys into my garden several times a day and doing the doorbell multiple times a day asking for the item to be thrown over.

I have a newborn and an 18 month old and this is really starting to annoy me.
I will be in the middle of a nappy change and the doorbell will just keep going.

They also use those hoverboard things around our car at times crashing into it.

I don’t know what to do apart from ignore the door now?
AIBU?

For the next few times answer the door and say 'I'll throw it over the next time I'm out' then mainly ignore the door. Nip out maybe twice a day to chuck over.

You never have to answer your door to anyone, you've got your own priorities.

YANBU and their parents shouldn't be letting them ring, we just wait and the neibours chuck back when they noticed.

They are old enough to be told by their parents to be careful and not throw or kick balls and toys over. Can you speak to the parents and tell them, say you don't want them ringing the bell, you won't be answering it, they will be back in school next week.

That’s so frustrating. Is it a real doorbell or a ring one? You could turn off notifications if it was a ring one.

it must really disturb your children’s nap times

What sort of bell is it? Can you turn it off? I would ignore them and eventually they will go away.

YANBU. Kids will be kids and inevitably items will come over the fence but ask your neighbour to tell them to stop ringing your doorbell to ask for them back. They should understand how annoying this is with a newborn. The kids will have to wait until you decide to throw them over. As for the hoverboards again tell them to have a word with the kids to keep clear. They should have enough sense to know that if they cause damage to someone else’s property they’ll have to pay for it.

Put a note on your door, speak to parents about the baby and tell them to mind your car. Those kids aren't your responsibility.
My DS knows if the ball goes over next door, it's now theirs. (They usually throw them over when they find them). He's got to keep footballs down (he shouldn't be hitting or kicking it hard enough to clear a 6ft fence!). If he's in the front garden and it goes over the 3ft fence more than 3 times he's got to come in. (He's damaged a solar light in the past and been made to pay our next door neighbour through pocket money) ... we paid neighbour straight away, DS paid us back.
My DS has ADHD and has to stay within our gardens or he wonders off. It's tricky because he wants to go off and play but he understands other people live on either side of us. He can't run around screaming and damaging things.

When your children reach the same age pay the neighbours back by buying a trampoline, a basketball hoop, some goal posts, and a swingball set for your garden.

Don't answer the door. Disconnect the dootbell for now if needs be. Throw all the balls over at the end of the day. Is your car on a drive or parked in the street?

Ah I know it's annoying I was the same before I had kids, it would wreck my head. Then I had ds I just wouldn't answer the door to them then the next morning either left the stuff at the front door or threw it back over as I knew in a few years my kid was going to be the annoying neighbours kicking balls over and I'd be sending him back in to ring and knock on their doors.
I just told them I'd leave the stuff out or throw it back over when I could sometimes I left it for a week depending on how much was coming into the garden. My lad is now 13 and he sometimes still manages to kick a ball over by accident and same with the neighbours kids. It's part of living in an estate with kids as neighbours.

@onlockdown I did this
to keep ds entertained as he is an only. All the neighbours kids thought my back garden was a playground..

Agree with PP. Tell the parents you have a newborn and youngster and can’t have the bell keeping going. Say you will go out once a day, morning or evening, and throw over whatever balls have landed in your garden. If they land back in the kids have to wait until the next time you’re out.
If you happen to be out anyway and notice a ball, you’ll throw it. But they can’t keep ringing to ask you to throw it over because your hands are very much tied.

It’s not an unkindness it’s just a basic boundary. You aren’t keeping the balls, just limiting how often you’re playing fetch. The bell ringing is the most frustrating part so they need to stop that altogether from now on.

Tell kids / parents next time anything appears over the fence you will not be returning it until you go into the garden. Ignore door from then on. Don’t make special trips to the garden to retrieve their stuff. If the car is in your drive let parents know that they should not be riding hoverboard on your property as they are hitting the car and they’ll be billed for any damages.

Yes, this. Tell the family you can’t have the bell going all the time, it’s too disruptive. Any balls that come over they will get back when you are next out in garden, fine to give a schedule if you like but up to you.

If there are any more balls tomorrow I am not going to open the door and return it at my convenience.

When I see the mum I will kindly mention the fact that the frequent ball throwing is causing a major inconvenience and for the kids to not do the doorbell.

I didn’t mind a few times but it’s becoming an every day thing, and sometimes I have even seen the kids trying to climb the fence.

Anti climb paint will help with that last one @easterfunbunn

Tell them they are free to collect the ball back themselves.