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To despise my neighbours.

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Louiselo · 16/04/2025 19:48

This is a complicated one to explain but I will try.

I live in a flat and there are 2 other flats below me. Opposite are two town houses. There is a car park in between all properties. Imagine a rectangle on one long side are two flats (mine is just outside the rectangle) and on the other long side are the back door for the two town houses. In the middle is the car park. The flats below me do not have the right to park in the car park, there are two spaces for the cars belonging to the town houses. The town houses front doors are on the main road (terraced street). I also have a car parking space but this is set back from the rectangle and is on my property deeds.

The town house neighbours are the most filthiest people I’ve come across. They put bin bags out all week, which get ripped opened by wildlife. This leaves dirty nappy’s on the driveway to our car park. They dump and dump electrical goods on the entry way to our car park. Now this is what I want to know they have a front door. Should their bin bags go outside their house as they have a front door. Or is it ok for them to dump them to the entry way to our shared car park?

They also have left large pallets, a cooker and a large dining table with four chairs in the car park. While I appreciate they can park there isn’t ok to turn the car park into their own dumping ground? I will try and attach photos.

Thanks for reading.

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Bonniethetiler · 16/04/2025 23:33

MolluscMonday · 16/04/2025 23:23

What a bizarre overreaction to a simple enquiry about location.

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You try living somewhere where you've lived all your life and where you're really proud of, and having the press making out it's anything but how it actually is, and you might understand why I'm so fed up with the way we are being spoken about. It's getting a lot of people down here, because like I have said already, so much effort is going into keeping the bulk of the city clean at this difficult time.

mathanxiety · 16/04/2025 23:56

Louiselo · 16/04/2025 22:10

Thanks everyone for the advice! I definitely will make myself a nuisance! We are defo not in the middle of a bin strike. We had bins collected today 30 mins later 5 more bin bags left of the drove. My husband has moved them to outside their house. I just don’t understand why you have no respect for where you live! The wheelie bins we have are for the 3 flats for recycling, but we can never use them as they fill the bins with crap and th n they’re not collected. Meaning we can’t recycle properly! It is all just very frustrating.

So they are using your bins and preventing you from getting a service you're paying for?

You need to take photos of them doing this, and you need to empty their garbage out of your buns and dump it all at their door.

maudlinbrassmonkey · 17/04/2025 01:32

Bonniethetiler · 16/04/2025 23:20

Are you basing this solely on what you have seen in the press? If so then you can't be blamed for not knowing the truth, as the media have zoomed in on some of the dirtiest parts of the city to report that the filth is all part of the bin collection strike - and really, it isn't.

Yes, those areas are worse than usual because of the bin strike, however, they are pretty grim all year round anyway. A quick look at the comments left on such stories posted to social media will confirm this and more.

The vast majority of Birmingham remains visually unchanged. The bulk of the streets are not filled with rubbish. People are making huge efforts to use the council tips (of which there are several), many of the black bins (standard waste) are still being emptied regularly, albeit less often (typically every fortnight instead of weekly), leaving only the recycling to deal with.

Add to this the fact that whilst Birmingham City Council is the major council for the area, many large parts of Birmingham which make up the border of the city come under the control of other councils, such as Sandwell, Walsall, Lichfield, Solihull, and Bromsgrove, none of whom have bin strikes at the moment. Indeed Lichfield have recently stepped in to help Birmingham City Council with their waste collection in parts not covered by Lichfield.

As it stands, I have no opinions either way on the dispute that's taking place, but I am getting really, really pis$ed off with the way that it's being made out that we're all living like Stig of The Dump - it makes a complete mockery of all the hard work that individuals are putting in to make sure that the bulk of the city stays as clean as it can. But of course that doesn't making for an interesting story.

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I came to the conclusion that the state of the streets in the clips I’d seen was more a demographic problem than a rubbish collection problem. Decent people would bring their rubbish to a tip if there was a bin strike. I live in London so I know the sorts that fly tip and think nothing of living in slum conditions.

Bonniethetiler · 17/04/2025 01:39

I'm pleased you have seen this for what it is. I've seen lots of reports that make out it's a city-wide A-hole of a place and that we're all sitting around piling up bin bags and muttering about how terrible it is, whilst doing nothing else.

A huge pile of rubbish was set on fire in one area recently. Some of the comments said "this was only a matter of time" and that it was all the fault of the bin collection strike. How was it? The fire was started deliberately. Had it been combustion then I may have warmed to the argument. But not this.

maudlinbrassmonkey · 17/04/2025 01:47

Bonniethetiler · 17/04/2025 01:39

I'm pleased you have seen this for what it is. I've seen lots of reports that make out it's a city-wide A-hole of a place and that we're all sitting around piling up bin bags and muttering about how terrible it is, whilst doing nothing else.

A huge pile of rubbish was set on fire in one area recently. Some of the comments said "this was only a matter of time" and that it was all the fault of the bin collection strike. How was it? The fire was started deliberately. Had it been combustion then I may have warmed to the argument. But not this.

When we drive through parts of east and south east London to get to Canterbury, etc.
it really is striking how some people can make an area a hideous eyesore and others can beautify an area to almost fairytale conditions.

I just feel sorry for the non-slummy people of Brum. Sadly I don’t see your environs improving any time soon.

mixedpeel · 17/04/2025 03:56

Bonniethetiler · 17/04/2025 01:39

I'm pleased you have seen this for what it is. I've seen lots of reports that make out it's a city-wide A-hole of a place and that we're all sitting around piling up bin bags and muttering about how terrible it is, whilst doing nothing else.

A huge pile of rubbish was set on fire in one area recently. Some of the comments said "this was only a matter of time" and that it was all the fault of the bin collection strike. How was it? The fire was started deliberately. Had it been combustion then I may have warmed to the argument. But not this.

Fantastic posts on this thread. Honestly the way this is being reported nationally just points up that you can’t take any so-called ‘news’ as fact. Any time a news story is about something I have personal knowledge of, there are (at best) a few inaccuracies, convenient omissions or simplifications, but very often it’s downright misleading as the reporting on this has been.

mixedpeel · 17/04/2025 05:07

@Louiselo, just to say that your situation sounds grim and I hope you can find the energy to continue reporting in all the many ways people have recommended. Ridiculous (though unsurprising, sadly) that the council have done nothing all this time. Hope you get a permanent resolution soon.

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