Not sure if its the right word but this is really bugging me!
I have always had a desk job, and wfh 2-3 days a week since covid. Dh up until recently has had a more manual job, think electrician, but has worked shifts, a combination of earlies, lates and nights. He has always had a lot of time off as well because of how his shifts have worked, and generally apart from the odd weekend and night shifts, worked 7 hour days.
I do however appreciate nights and swapping shifts is difficult.
Dh has always moaned if I ever go to do any work in the evening. Its not every night but we have 2 young children as well and when he was on shifts I would do the majority of drop offs and picks up so some days I hadn't always finished my work before needing to leave and my line manager was always happy for me to leave/log off a bit early knowing I would finish work later etc
Dh has always said that an office job isn't stressful and that i should always just log off when I'm done and log on the next day as he hates me working in the evening. We have had massive rows about it.
Money wise we earn about the same, DH slightly more but that's due to the fact he can do overtime etc
Dh now has an office job. Has had for the last 6 months. Constantly moans about how stressful it is. How he has to work extra in the evenings sometimes. How hard it is staring at a screen for 7 hours (still does shorter days than me 7-2 most days)
He has to go into the office most days. Comes home at 2 and has a nap, so I'm still doing school runs.
This week he has worked every evening for at least 2 hours. But then moaned when I needed to log on for 10 minutes to finish something yesterday.
It is driving me mad. But when I called him out on it was told because I WFH I have it easier.
Oh and when I'm wfh I'm also expected to do all school runs, the washing, empty the dishwasher, make all lunches, including his, sort the bins out and look after the eldest during school holidays (youngest still at nursery!)