Is this a weird response from a friend, after telling her that we are finally getting to go somewhere we’ve always wanted to go

[WildBluebells]

So catching up with two friends, I say something, in an excited manner, along the lines oh, guess what, we’ve finally gone and booked Florida, so excited

friend replies, oh, didn’t you go there last year

Does she get to go away herself? For various reasons, I’m not travelling much myself at the moment, but I get weary hearing about other people’s travels, although I don’t show it. It’s hard to maintain excitement for the 10th colleague going to Japan for example! Although I don’t actually talk about my own travels much.

I definitely don’t do the Yay! thing.

Well she’s explained the friend has form (it would have helped op if you’d given this context) . What is weird I think is that you are a)still friends and b) asking if the friend is unreasonable for doing what she always does.

But your thread wasn't: "is this a weird response from someone who's kinda got form for being someone that can’t really be happy for others" - you said 'a friend' . That mini drip feed kinda changed things.

Not everyone remembers details - I wouldn't have a clue where my friend went on holiday last year - and people make throwaway comments in casual chat. I'm an over thinker, but even I wouldn't overthink that one tbh.

Haha, what? It wasn't a not "nice" response...? It was a normal response to a normal statement, and that's coming from someone who gets easily excited about everything!

Golden rule is do not assume other people will be (or should be) that interested in your life events including marriages, holidays, babies, new jobs.

Its a very exclusionary 'you' centric thing to bring up in a group discussion. Was probably quite jarring and awkward if it wasn't the topic and no one asked.

What are they specifically meant to say? you asked no furthering questions (although they actually scrambled and tried to but this want good enough) and it doesn't sound like they have sharable personal experience and they are in no way included in it so it was a passing comment at best not a discussion topic.

Your holiday is not really something other non involved people would be expected to 'celebrate'.

Is she someone who is concerned about the shitshow that is America at the moment? Maybe she was thinking that rather than yay iyswim?

Precisely!

This sounds like a response someone jealous would say. Surely she could have mustered up a "hope you have a good time" response.

No but I was absolutely convinced that my friend had been to a particular destination before so when she said she was going I said something like you've been before haven't you.

I was so convinced that she had been before, I felt like I had this clear memory of her going before to the extent that I wondered if I had her mixed up with someone else but none of my friends have ever been

It’s your holiday so as long as you’re excited that’s all that matters.

Yes, I could understand this. I'd struggle to show enthusiasm for a trip anywhere in the USA at the moment.

Yes, I guess you know you’ll get a few odd comments if you post in aibu
there will always be some saying your in the wrong no matter what

She's jealous of you.

Kinda sad when you think about it. She doesn't WANT you to have the nice holiday. And she's supposed to be your friend.

I'm going against the grain here and saying I get why it upset you. She didn't match your energy when you expressed excitement and basically rained on your parade. Not what we expect our friends to do. I get why that made you feel a bit off. YANBU

Its got nothing to do with remembering where she went last year. If her friend had actually been engaged and interested it the conversation she woukd have realised that a) it was somewhere new and b) she was excited about it making a response of ' how fab' much more normal and friend like.

Dear god. Peak Mumsnet 2025.

If you struggle when friends share news that doesn't centre you, @housethatbuiltme, some pp have helpfully suggested appropriate responses.

If you are wondering on the appropriate response, it is “yay”

I think this is one of those things that is probably difficult to describe and imperceptible to anyone apart from the person it was directed at, but I can empathise, OP. Brush it off and enjoy the holiday.

It's to take the wind out of your sails. Someone classed as a friend should be at least interested. Next time they are excited over something, don't show much enthusiasm!

No, it’s not weird.

100 per cent jealous response. Not a positive response for no other reason than envy. People are just so envious of anyone else doing well.

Start to avoid. She's jealous and will never be happy for you. Life is too short to be conscious of what you say. A friend is someone who is supportive, kind and always happy for you when you are happy.

Other peoples’ holidays aren’t that interesting. I had a friend who would always get very impatient with me when I couldn’t remember where she’d been/was going on holiday - she was quite hard work.

Why post then! Is it not allowed to disagree with your take on it! You’re clearly saying you don’t think you’re wrong, so why bother asking the rest of us? It’s obvious that many people, 91% think you are wrong, so that’s unequivocally your answer! Enjoy your holiday, and stop meeting up with a ‘friend’ you clearly don’t like very much!