More than a female friend

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Am I overthinking a situation?
My partner has a couple who he hangs out a lot with & loves them alot especially the lady.
We have a what's app group where we live and our friends are all included.
The lady posted that her partner and herself were travelling and needed someone to look after their cat whilst living at their house.
Not many people replied most likely coz they have kids to look after.

Anyway, my partner messaged his parents ( particularly his mum) to ask her whether she would consider going to live at theirs and look after the cat.

Am I overthinking the situation?
Surely my partner must really love this couple to ask his 65yr old parents to go and do this.

Or he’s just a nice guy who cares about his friends and wanted to help out?

They are friends. He’s being friendly to his friends. Have you not been together long?

I’m not even sure what the problem is? So what if he does really love them? Why is that bad?

Because he has been touchy with the lady.Maybe I should have said this.
My partner hangs out alot with them more-so because of the lady.

He doesn't do this with our other friends.
I have noted with concern how he treats the lady differently from his other female friends-long hugs, playing with each other when we hang out, my partner talking about her to me etc.

I have brainwashed my head so much in thinking that he just loves the couple but my intuition tells me that his interest is the lady

Has he got history of tripping over himself to help this lady more than he would help other people?
Would you say your partner's mum being asked to catsit in someone's house is a completely outlandish idea as she doesn't especially like cats?

If the answers to these questions are yes (especially the first question), I can understand where you are coming from as it's understandable to feel uneasy. However, if there is no history of him running after her, and his mum has time on her hands and doesn't mind cats, I wouldn't read too much into it.

He is probably just trying to help a friend out as he knows his mum might be able to do it. I imagine his friends post on the what's app group was probably a desperate request if her travelling depended on getting a catsitter so why wouldnt he help if he knows someone? This lady posted on a group chat, not just to your partner, and also has a partner herself. Unless there is a backstory, nothing sounds dodgy to me here.

Sorry cross posted there, you have now said there is a backstory and he has form forgetting too close to this lady. Have you spoken to him about it? What did he say if you have? This particular occasion really more depends on what his parents are like and if it'd be normal to ask them to ask this of them.

OP you have started multiple threads about this couple he is friendly with and your concerns that he is too close to the woman.

@Frazzledmummy123 yes we spoke about him being close to her. He said so long as he want getting intimate with her, there was no concern for me to have.

@Seachanger So sorry to have multiple posts.I have been cheated before thus my overanalysis of what I see around me and before I approach my DH I always want to check whether "AIBU"

What dos the “playing with each other when you meet up “ entail

@RealEagle playing with each other means, if we are all together, they will engage in chasing after each other, if we are indulged in a game of cards, they will throw them at each other, if we're indulged in a throw ball game, they will throw the ball at each other while her DP and myself will just stand there.