My child is EXACTLY like me

[AnnoyingAsCanBe]

I've come to the realisation after another very long, taxing Easter Holiday day out that my child is a mini me. Now whilst that's great in some way, my LO is so so annoying in the way that children who are fiercely independent and bright tend to be. Opinionated and wanting to know everything and very hyper. And then I realised, omg this is me. I don't know how anyone puts up with me tbh! And now the question I have is, how do I behave how I want them to behave? A bit calmer, less nosey, less chatty, listen more and bit more self control. The realisation has knocked me for six.

Let me get this right, you want to teach DD to be less opinionated & forthright by you imposing a behaviour template upon her. A template to be a good girl because you think you as an adult have shortcomings
Can you see the problem?
Sort yourself out if you have demeanour and personality shortcomings without stifling your daughter

This is one of the strangest things I have ever read on Mumsnet.

I am pleased for you that your child is as ‘fiercely independent and bright’ as you are, but I have no idea why you would want to try stop this.

Leave them be. Not everyone is everyone else’s cup of tea and that’s ok! Both just be yourselves.

DD is her own person and you should let her develop to her full potential as she grows
You can’t mould a child to fit your specification

Do you see your DC’s behaviour and recognise things you’ve done /said which (as an adult) you realise are annoying or rude? If so, it’s just about teaching and modelling the sort of behaviour you want to see eg “I know it’s hard to wait nicely, but if you can’t be quiet and still, then we can’t wait in line for the ice cream today”.

Or are you finding your DC annoying, but realising you do the same things? In which case, I think that’s something to unpick with some sort of therapist, because it has potential to really damage your relationship with your DC.