My child’s father

[Lesleyann25]

I posted about this recently, my daughter is almost 12 she has always been quite sweet bit and just gone with the flow but since her period she is having outbursts. Her dad and his partner cannot cope at all as they have an 8 year old too.

My daughter’s behaviour is worse there and she told me she is not sleeping over anymore because her dad is lazy won’t do anything and it causes lots of arguments and she has had enough. Now he is acting like I am not allowing it, he is taking her out today and he said he can arrange to do things but at her age and I cannot force her. She digs her heels in and point blank refuses. She has stayed there no problem for 10 years. He won’t respond to my messages (which in a way i am glad) because all he has done for 10 years is belittle my parenting and I will be glad when I barely have to speak to him.

He is also controlling and she has to stick to
routines there, I will often drop her off to see her friend last minute etc. He tried to take her to
soft play then he had melt down when she wouldn’t go. I said you don’t see many kids with boobs running around soft play. He caters more to the 8 year old and doesn’t really do what she enjoys. I feel a bit guilty but then he didn’t feel guilty when he moved a new woman in 3 months after I left. I really do think the atmosphere in that home is causing a lot of my daughter’s bad moods. Am I right to say she does not want to sleep over but you can see her anytime.

I mentioned it does not mean it bothers me 10 years later. I knew they’d start coming out of the woodwork

I am considering taking her for an assessment. I have been speaking to her about it.

Do not know what the nasty comment were but I suspect her dad is on the spectrum due his complete inflexibility and strict routines and of anything changes he melts down like a toddler. She has only started this behaviour since her periods and it is quite rare but yes it’s crossed my mind she could be too. There’s some nasty people.

Grow up will you. Of course it isn't unacceptable.

I honestly do not know. He said he had paid upfront and made me reimburse him with the door charge. Prince upon men.

It's not awful at all (atleast not coming from a mum:). But some people clutch their pearls for anything. They're probably constantly constipated as well as taking a dump is beneath them.

I am sometimes astounded by what offends some people. I also had someone else abuse me . If someone comes to website for advice from anyone in a similar situation it’s obviously because they deeply care about their child’s well-being or they just would not even bother looking for advice. Very odd and saying the word boobs makes me awful too wtf.

Bit odd to object to him moving in with another woman within 3 months when you left him?

Well I thought it was way too soon to have a new woman in my 18 month old daughters life on a constant basis and also I left him due to cheating with said woman so yes 10 years ago it was quite heart breaking. I still have not brought a man into my child’s life. Not to say I haven’t dated but unless you are very sure it’s going to work out i do not think it appropriate. 3 months is not quite long enough to figure that out dont you think?

Anyone can have a pop at me. I have told her father he is free to take her out any day over the 2 weeks holiday I will rearrange should I have to and because I have said I am not dropping her off or picking her up he has decided 1 after each week is what he can manage. Baring in mind he works for himself and always does his work in the evenings.