How do you respond?!

[oaktree79]

How do you explain to people (MIL), that I don’t want them to constantly give my child chocolate.

I’m not a health freak, DS has treats, but I can’t deal with MIL constantly offering chocolate and biscuits at incredibly inappropriate times. She finds it really funny that my niece runs straight to her bag to look for chocolate. I think it makes her feel wanted… but it’s the dairy milk she’s after 😂

My own mom understands treats shouldn’t be a constant/expected thing so it’s never been an issue. I’ve managed to get by with just saying ‘no’ and shrugging it off but she’s getting really pushy. I don’t know how to articulate myself politely?! DH has also said no, as apparently she tries to sneak sweets in him when I’m not there!

We’re fast approaching a picky eating stage, so I definitely don’t want him to be expecting chocolate buttons and quavers on demand.

I think it entirely depends on how frequently she sees him. If it's once a week then I'd let her be that grandma. If it's every day then you need to tell her to check with you before offering first. Why not tell her he's trying to cut down on sugar but loves football cards or slime or something else she can buy him that is cheap and exciting? Or even a kinder egg would be better, where there is very little actual chocolate.

Say - thank you for the gifts that’s so thoughtful. Can you share them with us (parents) and we can share at times that suit their routine. Or, can you give them to them like this and outline. Give her an option. Let her know you are a health focused family. Expect some grumbles.