No good dead goes unpunished

[Conistonhawks]

In hospital at the moment.
Will use lady 1 and lady2
lady 1 opposite me has been crying a lot and shaking. The nurses only have so much time so me and lady 2 on the ward have been sitting with her and holding her hand. Managed to calm her down last night so she could sleep.

today lady 1 has announced to all of the bay and some of the nurses that me and the other lady have been saying nasty things and we tried to hit her. Luckily the other women in our bay piped up and said that’s not true at all.

Everytime time me and lady 2 talk, lady 1 shouts that we are being nasty to her.
lady 1s daughter came this morning and she told one of the nurses that we are being nasty to her mum. The nurse told her we had not and the daughter just said her mum wouldn’t lie.

now the daughter has gone and lady 1 is crying again and asked me to go over but I said no. I feel mean but she has already accused me of stuff and I don’t want to be put in that position again.

Lady is having a mental breakdown or a dementia episode. So sorry for everyone concerned, very upsetting.

Speak to the ward manager and request that they move the beds, it’s often possible to do this. Her making an accusation of assault is serious and you should make them fix this. Make sure everything is documented.

Get well soon.

She is obviously having some kind of mental health difficulties. You don't have to go over if you don't want to. Draw your curtain, get some rest and leave it to the nurses to help her. It is horrible to be accused, but she clearly doesn't understand what she is saying or thinks it has really happened. It's not personal. Hope you get well soon.

Yes make sure all this is being documented in the daily notes. I’m sure lady1 isn’t doing it to be purposely awful, she sounds unwell

She's clearly not right in the head.

You are clearly sick yourself if admitted into hospital.

I wouldn't even acknowledge her presence going forward, look after yourself and let her (& her daughter) mind her business.

Also lodge complaints about her harassment of you.

Lady 1 is clearly mentally unwell, possibly dementia. I'm sure the nurses know this, she probably complains to her DD that the nurses are mean to her too. I doubt they believe that you have harmed her in any way at all.

Don't let it worry you, but if you see her DD again explain the situation and tell her that unfortunately, from now on you won't be able to speak to or offer any comfort to her mother when she's distressed, even if the the nurses are too busy to tend to her themselves, because you don't want to risk any more accusations.

And get yourself some noise cancelling headphones and put your curtain around you.

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You need to speak to staff and get one of you moved. Given she claims you've tried to hit her I can't imagine her having any legitimate argument in getting moved. You need to nip it in the bud if you can, her claims will only get worse.

Definitely this. Sorry you're in hospital OP. Get your earplugs in and don't engage. 💐

I would agree with this, but lady 1's daughter complained to the nurses about it and wouldn't back down when told she was wrong.
If it is mh issues the hospital staff should support her, not other patients who then get accused in the wrong.

Edit to add: OP @Conistonhawks I hope you're feeling better and out of hospital soon 💐

Yep, stay away.

you don’t need that trouble