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To have no sex life?

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Mypatienceisthinnerthanthin · 14/04/2025 13:10

Sorry if this sounds dramatic, I have posted in health before but not gotten any replies.
Quick background, I've always suffered with my periods, they're heavy but not excessively to the point of flooding, leaking etc but enough to keep me always mildly anaemic and feeling tired all the time. They are long and I have very short cycles so I basically bleed/spot for 10-12 days and have barely 2 weeks before the next one starts. They are also very painful for a couple of the heavier days.

I have tried several types of the pill which help in some ways but have other undesirable side effects. Over the last couple of years I have pushed for tests as I refuse to just be told this is normal. But ultrasounds and a biopsy have shown there is nothing actually wrong with me (which i am grateful for but doesn't help with finding a treatment that will help my symptoms)

For years they have been trying to get me to try the mirena coil so I finally did after trying everything else, I'd hoped it would be my miracle cure but unfortunately not. 8 months in and I have bled and spotted almost daily aside from a couple of 9-10 day stretches at the beginning where I didnt bleed. But the spotting is getting worse as time goes on.

Anyway as per my title this is seriously affecting my sex life with DP where essentially we don't do it anymore because I am always bleeding and I'm really feeling resentful that I'm in my 30's and have no sex life due to this, AIBU to just accept this is my life until i pray menopause takes over and stops it?

It took me several years to get the scan and biopsy done but I really want to request a hysterectomy even though my insides are apparantly healthy and normal can I even do this?

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MiddleAgedDread · 14/04/2025 13:18

I had a similar experience with the mirena, it was sold to me to help resolve heavy bleeding (mine was caused by fibroids so at least I had a reason for it) but it actually made things worse. Thankfully it bled itself out after a year and I had the fibroids treated.
You would have to fight very hard for a hysterectomy and I suspect you'd struggle to get one even if you paid to go private. Maybe look into an ablation?

PensionMention · 14/04/2025 13:27

Ablation can be around 5k. I did not need it in the end but I am older than you and my year of issues was due to peri menopause.

Have they tried you on tranexamic acid?

Summerhillsquare · 14/04/2025 16:17

Did taking the pill back to back help? Combined or mini? It's totally unacceptable you're suffering like this.

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Mypatienceisthinnerthanthin · 15/04/2025 00:20

MiddleAgedDread · 14/04/2025 13:18

I had a similar experience with the mirena, it was sold to me to help resolve heavy bleeding (mine was caused by fibroids so at least I had a reason for it) but it actually made things worse. Thankfully it bled itself out after a year and I had the fibroids treated.
You would have to fight very hard for a hysterectomy and I suspect you'd struggle to get one even if you paid to go private. Maybe look into an ablation?

To be fair it has had its positives, I no longer bleed heavily or have any pain at all which is amazing but this continuous spotting is almost worse because it's constant and I can't see an end to it. I also have fibroids but they are like 7mm and so I'm told they are can't be responsible for my symptoms.
Ablation was mentioned in one of my referral letters, however when I got there it was clear they wanted me to try the mirena first which I now have so perhaps I can try get another referral in a few years time and push for that.

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Mypatienceisthinnerthanthin · 15/04/2025 00:24

PensionMention · 14/04/2025 13:27

Ablation can be around 5k. I did not need it in the end but I am older than you and my year of issues was due to peri menopause.

Have they tried you on tranexamic acid?

I tried tranexamic acid before the mirena for a few months and it did make a slight difference to how heavy I'd bleed however my periods were still really long which is my main issue. They only gave me it for a few months while I waited on the refferal to gynae.

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Mypatienceisthinnerthanthin · 15/04/2025 00:28

Summerhillsquare · 14/04/2025 16:17

Did taking the pill back to back help? Combined or mini? It's totally unacceptable you're suffering like this.

Taking the combined pill back to back was one of the worst things I ever tried, it resulted in a really long period, think it was my bodies way of payback to try and skip a period 🤣
The mini pill just does similar to what the mirena is doing and made me bleed or spot daily for about 5 months before I had to give up on it as my iron levels were getting low and I felt like crap
I wonder if my hormones are just not right, but no one has ever suggested checking that?

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JockyWilsonsaid · 15/04/2025 00:39

I had a hysterectomy due to period problems, but mine were pretty horrendous. During the op they discovered I had adenomyosis.

MiddleAgedDread · 15/04/2025 07:27

Your experience sounds so similar to mine, the combined pill gave me a migraine so that only lasted 3 weeks, the mini pill made me bleed / spot for 13 weeks by which point I’d had enough. I also began to wonder if it was caused by something hormonal as everything they gave me seemed to have the opposite effect to what it should have done. I think some of mine was the start of perimenopause too but the effects of the pills and mirena really put me off trying HRT!

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