“It’s 500 Days of Summer in real life—and I’m in the middle of it.” Met a girl 22F 2 months back I am 26M got rejected yesterday but the story is dumb I guess. what should i do?

[pearl22]

I met a girl in a meetup setup we both connected very well we talked on whats app for 2 months cz of some emergency we couldn't meet up, Meanwhile when we were talking she told she isnt looking for any thing but companionship as she have had 2 relations in the past and one was a serious one.
Now as a normal guy i asked what is companionship so her definition of companionship was "maybe friendship" that maybe gave m hope and blurred my vision.
we both flirted talk about any thing and every thing with each other and when she came we both went on a date. I dont know about her but i really liked spending time with her, but in the mid date i blurted again that I dont understand this companionship thing or "maybe friendship thing" and i like you and when i like something i want to risk it all. You take your time please and tell me what do you think about it.
I dropped her and that night only she texted "I have been very clear about it from the start i am not ready for a relationship NEITHER I WILL BE READY ANY TIME SOON and if you ever think that this is hurting you we will stop talking, Although she doesnt want to stop talking but so is hurting me"
To which i said I will step back as it is and will keep hurting me, now i am a bit mature and i think this decision is good. she texted twice again the same day to at-least stay in touch to which i said its better that we close the chapter here only.
Now my friend asked this question when I told my story to him -Do you liked her cz she is just a woman or you liked her as a person who she is. I said I liked her as a person. He said you dont stop talking to a person just cz she / he doesnt align with your feelings or thought process.
And after straight away telling her I wont be talking to you any more I am thinking to message her again.
I like her and I like spending time with her but this platonic thing can back fire if i slipped any time in the future.
Tl;dr - I like a girl she went on a date with me knowing i like her and she doesnt want a relationship and then rejected the proposal of being a gf. What to do.

Leave her alone and move on with your life.

You're wasting too much human energy on this person, it's time to move on, the mixed signals are a nonsense, she probably has somebody else and is stringing you along. Drop her, plenty of ladies out there which deserve your undivided attention.

She’s been totally clear. What is it that’s confusing you?

What do you mean by ‘this platonic thing can backfire if I slipped any time in the future’?

She's been very clear. Don't message her.

She's told you from the very start she is not interested in you in a romantic or sexual manner. You clearly want to date her and fancy her..well tough. She doesn't feel the same.

You need to leave her alone and hopefully meet someone who does feel a romantic connection.

You need to listen to what she's told you. She wasn't ever girlfriend material.

Don't message her. Either she just doesn't fancy you or she really doesn't want a relationship at the moment. It's her choice and she's been very clear.

She wants your attention, but not your affection. If it's hurting you to want more even though she's clearly told you she is not interested in more from you, step away from this one. Nothing you want will ever come from it.

Oh, for heaven's sake. The 10ft writing on the wall is telling you to move on.

You need to further research 500 days of summer. It's not about a man being "friendzoned" it's about him missing all the very obvious signs and not letting the woman have autonomy. In his head the women exists just for him and he is hurt that she won't just exist in the world in this way purely for him and how he wants her.

This woman was clear all along she wants a friend. You don't. You want more. You either fully accept this and have a friendship or you leave her alone so you can both live your lives.

Stop being so wet and leave her alone. Billions of other women in the World.

You walk away. How much more clear does she actually need to be? She doesn’t want a relationship with you and has been explicit in telling you that. The fact that you can’t manage your own expectations is not her problem.

There aren't mixed signals here, I would say she has been very clear she wants a friend and nothing more. If someone chooses to misunderstand friendship for more then that is their fault for seeing something thats not there, not someone sending mixed signals.

You have two choices.

1. Accept she is a friend and nothing more and never will be and act accordingly.
2. Accept you will always want more than a friendship and therefor a friendship only cant work and move on and forget about her.

It’s simple to me - she wants you as a friend only, you want something more.

If you are happy to be her friend (and nothing more), she is happy to stay in contact.

However, if you don’t want to be ‘friend’ and it is difficult for you, then it’s best you cut contact. I think she has said this clearly, as she doesn’t know what you are willing to do/think.

Ignore the friend - it’s bollocks. He’s suggesting she’s not allowed to be in control of her own life.

There are plenty of genuine male and female friendships, but many women are just fed up of realising their male friend wants to date them and that’s the only reason he is hanging out with her.

You need to work out the difference between fancying someone (wanting to date them) and liking someone (be their friend).

I would protect myself and distance myself from her. You can't control your emotions, but you can control your actions. So take active steps and choose yourself. She is not interested, grieve and move on.

Imagine she was a bloke you'd met and got on with.

Now would you be afraid that the friendship could "backfire" on you if it continued?

I bet not - you'd never make a pass at him sexually or romanticly, but because your new friend is female and you're attracted to her you can't accept friendship only.

She's made it as plain as day that she doesn't have any attraction to you. You could be like a brother.

So - can you accept that and have a friendship, or do you think your attraction to her will get in the way?

If the latter then you need to block and forget her.

Dude this isn't reddit.
Plus your title is vastly irritating.

To all the people, I stopped messaging her for 3 days she called me started crying and we started talking again.The thing my friend said "He said you dont stop talking to a person just cz she / he doesn't align with your feelings or thought process." Now I don't feel any thing for her I talk as per my bases and I Have started going out back again.

I am very surprised though how a reaction of some ones action can change your feelings like a snap (still she doesn't want any thing beside friendship) and the story has a big upgrade too she isn't over her ex and she wanted some one to talk to about her ex which i clearly said she would need to find some one else to do so.