Life never gets easier

[irenestubbs]

Just that.
I’m in my 50’s so fairly used to the shitshow called life
but atm I want to crawl in a hole .
serious menopause related mental health issue
. Marriage issues that are starting to be resolved but working hard at this
. job is being completely restructured and possibly being made redundant or best case is my job will be completely different
.father in law is very ill and on palliative care
. as result narcissistic in laws have been playing their games with my husband

feel like shoving my head in a hole!

And and have tendinitis in my right thumb so can’t do anything
also have other serious health conditions

💐to you OP. Sounds like you’re really going through the mill. xx

Oh @irenestubbs i feel for you, I had a similar time last year, it just seemed unrelenting. The only thing I can say about it all coming at once is that it all resolves at once. This year is much better as all the issues of last year have ended (work, terminally ill relative, kids pushing me to my limits etc).

hang in there, there will be a light at the end of the tunnel eventually. After all, everything has to end.

Oh and a 17 year old and all that entails!

I can totally sympathise. The one thing that really helped me was getting decent HRT. I don’t know if you’re already on this?

Yes in HRT and having therapy too
but nothing is overnight

No I know but it sounds as though you’re taking steps in the right direction

I hear you. It’s a fucking treadmill!

Here to share. 2 DC’s; the eldest is coming up to 22 and he looks like he will never be independent and move out. He’s hard to live with and has just lost his “career” job because he smokes pot.
I’m tired and he’s around the house so much. I love him, but do need some space. He is asking when and where we are all going on holiday!

As long as he is paying !

I wish.

It's not top trumps or a race to the bottom but I try to look for the positives in every day. I have a life limiting condition, MIL is dying, I lost my DPs far too young along with a teen DB in a catastrophic (think journalists at the door) event.
Life is a struggle, but today I'm having lunch out (that I can't eat), with my lovely DIL and baby GD, a DC born following fertility treatment, one I never dreamt I'd get to meet.

OP it sounds like you are being pro active and taking the steps you need to deal with the crap, remember to credit yourself for that. The job thing is beyond your control try not to catastrophise about that. And we've been through it with elderly sick manipulative parents - deep breaths!!

Sorry to hear things are tough OP. I remember in my late 40s thinking much the same for similar reasons. If it helps though, it probably will get easier. The older generation won't be around forever. Teens turn into independent adults. Work issues settle and menopause loosens its grip eventually. Hang on in there, look after yourself as best you can and keep plodding on.