Said DD friends couldn't stay over

[marchmash]

I've got into such a stress and feel guilty now. 16 yr old DD just asked if 2 friends could spontaneously stay over (they're all out for the evening, we all live in the same city). She has quite often stayed with one of them before. I was just having a quiet evening and have a long work week next week, working from home tomorrow (they are on school holidays). I have said no but now feel mean because her friends do come here less (small flat) and more to her Dad's (large house), and now worried she will feel she can't bring friends here. It is just too short notice for me as I would feel I have to clean etc. AIBU to say no? Should I just not worry about saying no? She has accepted it fairly graciously but now I feel so bad.

I have said they are welcome to come another time with more notice.

Don't overthink it just say next time give me a bit more notice. You're obviously a lovely Mum x

I've done this with my DD. I'm not comfortable with last minute visits, never mind sleep overs. Don't feel guilty, it's really no big deal.

16 year olds don't notice the house. Be glad she is wants to bring friends over. I am sure there will be many other nights

I would have said yes.
Why would you have to clean?

I don't let DS have friends to sleep over during the week because I need him to be quiet so I can sleep. So I would say no (well he wouldn't ask). But I would never think I needed to clean for teenagers coming over! That's just silly.

Thanks for the replies. I have had health worries lately and am a bit emotional, and want to be the perfect parent etc, it is fine, they can come another time, she is not upset. My Mum rarely let me have anyone round and I like to welcome people but it's just too short notice. As it is such a small place and not the standard of the other kids at school homes, I am a bit paranoid about it at least being clean and tidy, it is absolutely fine but just can't face specially tidying on a Sunday night. I will make it up to her another time.

I’m exactly the same I hate last minute visitors and especially two overnight. I’d panick about cleaning and having stuff in they like to eat etc. don’t feel bad we are all different just say it’s completely fine with a bit of notice

I would be the same. I love having people in and out the house all day but I hate overnight guests and would need notice.

Won’t she just now go to her dad’s more because her friends can come over? Oh well. Natural consequences and all that