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To stop going to a yoga class because they’re proposing changing the time? (With backstory)

141 replies

ZanyWriter · 13/04/2025 14:44

Posting here for some perspective. Since March, I’ve been going to a Monday evening yoga class at 6:30pm. I’ve been consistent and found it helpful to wind down after the start of the week.

However, I recently got an email from the studio saying they’re thinking of moving the class to 7:30pm and asking for thoughts. On its own, it’s not a massive shift but it got me thinking.

Here’s the backstory (bear with me):
Last year, I used to go to a Tuesday class with a teacher I really liked. After a few months, another teacher (B) took over without any clear announcement. I reached out politely to ask if the change was permanent and got a vague reply. I then emailed again to ask about possible private sessions with the original teacher (A) and B never replied. I followed up once, still no reply. So eventually I sent a short, respectful message calling it out as discourteous and marked it as done - I wasn’t interested in any further interaction.

Fast-forward three months, A reached out of the blue to say hi and let me know she was teaching a new class. I didn’t reply because I’d already decided to move on. I’ve since been going to a Monday class with a completely different teacher (C), who I have no issue with.

Now they’re thinking of changing the class time, I’m wondering if it’s just time to let it go entirely. I’ve been questioning whether I’m going out of routine more than real desire and the whole studio has lingering associations that feel a bit off - even if the class itself is fine.

So… AIBU to just bow out now, even though the class hasn’t officially changed yet? Or does that seem overly dramatic/petty? I’m not upset - just unsure if I’m walking away from something that’s still fine or making the call at the right time.

OP posts:
Everystripesays · 13/04/2025 14:46

You're massively overthinking this surely? If you want to keep going then go, if the time change wouldn't work for you then go up to the point it changes or stop now- that's completely up to you.

CopperWhite · 13/04/2025 14:48

It’s yoga, if doing it there doesn’t make you feel good, then don’t do it.

I’d probably try and be a bit more understanding about A though, people can be off work for all sorts of reasons without knowing exactly when they will be back.

doodleschnoodle · 13/04/2025 14:50

I think you are overestimating how much anyone else cares about whether and why you go to a yoga class or not. Go if you want to, if you don’t want to anymore then don’t.

TennesseeStella · 13/04/2025 14:50

Goodness me. Just feed back that the current time of the class suits you fine and see what happens.

ZanyWriter · 13/04/2025 14:50

TennesseeStella · 13/04/2025 14:50

Goodness me. Just feed back that the current time of the class suits you fine and see what happens.

It doesn’t though. I sent a message back saying I really enjoy the classes and that personally 6.30 suits best

OP posts:
ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/04/2025 14:51

You are being dramatic and totally overthinking yes. Normal response would be to reply to the email and say either yes it works or no it doesn’t.

But you clearly don’t find this relaxing so you may as well stop going.

MissJeanBrodiesmother · 13/04/2025 14:51

Not sure why this is a big issue. If the new time doesn't suit don't go. You seem to be taking this all personally when it isn't.

KidsDoBetter · 13/04/2025 14:52

You really really have little to worry about in life ….

GoldThumb · 13/04/2025 14:53

ZanyWriter · 13/04/2025 14:50

It doesn’t though. I sent a message back saying I really enjoy the classes and that personally 6.30 suits best

Edited

6:30, which is the current time, no?

TennesseeStella · 13/04/2025 14:54

ZanyWriter · 13/04/2025 14:50

It doesn’t though. I sent a message back saying I really enjoy the classes and that personally 6.30 suits best

Edited

6:30 is the current time according to you so that's fine then?

beAsensible1 · 13/04/2025 14:56

They’ve asked for feedback just give them feedback that it doesn’t work for you.

i do think asking a new teacher for information on another teacher is a bit naive. Better to look them up online, find their socials or check on yoga teachers alliance

Goinggold · 13/04/2025 14:56

I can't work out why you need advice on this.

ANiceBigCupOfTea · 13/04/2025 14:57

This is such a highly dramatised monologue about something very simple.

xxxwd · 13/04/2025 14:58

Stop going and save them all from your insanity.

LivingDeadGirlUK · 13/04/2025 14:59

You are massively overthinking this. Go if the time suits you and you enjoy it, don't go if you dont/it doesn't.

KidsDoBetter · 13/04/2025 14:59

never seen something highlighted as a “backstory” that was anything but …

Barrenfieldoffucks · 13/04/2025 15:01

Why on earth does this need a 'back story ' ? Which is non existent really. You've been going for a month...so 4 times, 5 at most? Reply and say you'd rather stick with 1830. If the majority want to or are happy to change, they'll change. You then decide to keep going, or don't, and stop. No drama surely?!

Jojimoji · 13/04/2025 15:01

You messaged B to say they were
" discourteous" for not getting back to you after a query about classes with A .
A then gets back in touch with you about classes....... and you don't reply, because you've " moved on".

OK.

ISpyNoPlumPie · 13/04/2025 15:01

Oh @ZanyWriter… how do you get through the day?

ChaChaChaChanges · 13/04/2025 15:02

Christ alive.

thepariscrimefiles · 13/04/2025 15:02

You sent an email to B chastising her for being discourteous by not responding to you, but when A emailed you to kindly let you know that she was teaching a new class, you ignored her message and didn't respond. How come B was rude but you weren't?

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 13/04/2025 15:02

What's wrong with wanting a bit of consistency and clear communication? I can understand why you're fed up. Is there a suitable alternative if you decide not to go back?

notatinydancer · 13/04/2025 15:04

Blimey I wish this was all I had to (over) think about.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/04/2025 15:04

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 13/04/2025 15:02

What's wrong with wanting a bit of consistency and clear communication? I can understand why you're fed up. Is there a suitable alternative if you decide not to go back?

The yoga instructor C has clearly communicated and asked for comments before potentially making a change, they’ve done nothing wrong. How could they actually have communicated that better? A and B have nothing to do with Cs yoga class

thepariscrimefiles · 13/04/2025 15:05

Isn't yoga supposed to make people chilled out and zen? It's obviously not working for OP.