Fed up with my friend putting everything on Instagram

[JenniKL]

One of my close friends is fairly recently single. Since then, every time we go somewhere it seems like she is documenting EVERYTHING on to her instagram story and it is getting really annoying.

Example yesterday, waitress brings us over a couple of cocktails and I go to take a sip, to which my friend basically shouts stop and I wondered what was up thinking there was a bug in there or something. No, she just wanted to video us ‘cheers’ing’ whilst my glass was still full 🙄

I have discretely asked her why she is doing this, and she said that it’s so men know she’s available and if you aren’t using social media then people won’t be interested.

I’m lucky in that I’ve been with my husband for over 10 years meeting in my Uni days which mainly pre-dates the emergence of social media/dating apps, but is this really how people would meet these days?! If you aren’t on instagram then you are out of the dating game seems ridiculous!

People have allowed themselves to go completely mad.

It's annoying but give her some grace, she isn't getting dopamine hits from a loved one so let her get them from social media (for now) in 3-6 months get stricter with her. But in the meantime if something gives her a confidence boost please don't stand in the way.

If your husband suddenly left you tomorrow I'm sure she'd be there for you and be very kind no matter what your bizarre coping mechanism is . There but for the grace of gos go I...

That's really nasty

Me too

I agree

When I broke up with my fiance of ten years kn my late 20s I literally only had the coping skills of a 16 year old, and my friends were very kind to me and humored me

It's not my thing either, but different strokes for different folks. I don't use SM but that doesn't make me superior to people that do. Your post makes you sound like you think you're better than her.

Just be a friend, she's obviously going through a a tough time. If you don't want to be in anything, just tell her, but leave her to it

Yes I should imagine this is the real reason behind it all

This is normal now, though, to live through a lens. I just got back from a trip to Japan (after not travelling for a few years) & most tourists seemed more focused on getting photos / twirling in videos for Instagram than soaking up the culture or actually experiencing that incredible country.

There's no consideration, either. They'll just hog a lovely spot or jump into.your frame while you're taking a snap. It's all about the likes!

I think it's really sad. (Most people don't care about someone else's constant posts anyway!)

I've been in a relationship since before online dating or social media. I do have single friends and hear it is very hard getting dates nowadays! I would probably find it a bit annoying but would have a some empathy for her and leave her to it.

If she’s putting your life on instagram, that’s unacceptable. If it’s hers, stop judging. Not that I have instagram myself.

When I separated from my husband in my early 30s after 12 years together (we met at uni) I went all in on my social media usage- partly to prove to the world I was coping, partly because I was lonely, partly for attention from men I fancied/was dating. Looking back now it was all quite cringe but it was what I needed to cope and I am glad my friends, if fed up with it at the time, didn’t say anything to me and let me get on with it.

Social media and dating sites were both massive ten years ago.

YABU. What harm is she doing?

This. Yes it might be annoying to you op but I always think don't judge until you have walked a mile in another person's shoes. You come across as oh so smug in your post with your comment on being with your husband for all these years and not really understanding things these days. Maybe try to really imagine how your friend is feeling. Is it really going to hurt to have your cocktail glass photographed?

I’ve seen this behaviour, it’s out of control. But it isn’t what the OP is describing. Her friend is struggling here, she’s not doing it for “likes”

She needs validation and is getting it by showing’the world’ she is living her best life. I’d be supportive and try to help her feel comfortable in her self.