To wonder why ex hates me so much?

[Azizz]

So I ended my almost 20 year relationship around a year ago, it became unbearable and the parenting was so unbalanced that created so much resentment. I was so lonely even though I was in a relationship, he would work late, various hobbies, nights out etc and wondered why I wouldn’t have sex with them. Anyway, since we split he met somebody else really quickly and introduced the kids but he is so difficult to deal with and not very nice to me at all. It should be me who is bitter if anything, it’s a nightmare getting the child maintenance and because I ring him when it’s late i apparently still love him? What the hell!

Sounds like you hurt his ego but dumping him

Well he tells me how amazing his new girlfriend is all the time so he should be happy

Have you thought about going to CMS so they chase up the CM?

If he paid you on time you wouldn't have to call him. Maybe it's him who wants the extra phone call.

Go through CMS so you don’t have to chase him for payment each month.

Laugh if he says you still love him, or use the 👌 emoji if it’s via text.

He's angry because he thought he could control you and it turns out he couldn’t, he knows your life has got easier without him in it and that’s hurtful to him.

He hasn’t replaced you, he’s probably found himself a nanny with a fanny so he can continue to avoid actually being a parent.

Nanny with a fanny, brilliant 🤣🤣

I honestly don’t understand how somebody could even consider another relationship after such a long one. I sure as hell am staying single and nowhere near ready another man.

Some men handle rejection incredibly badly even if they are terrible partners. Also he probably got a lot of benefit from being with you and you removing access to yourself meant he had to go out and find somebody new to fulfil that role.

This makes me think of the Kyle Clifford case. He was setting up multiple dates with other women on line. Yet was still so enraged at Louise Hunt daring to dump him that he killed her and all her immediate female family members.

If I was the new partner I would be exiting stage left.

You do sound a bit like your ego has been bruised by him moving on quickly. It sounds to me as if you’d assumed the breakup would hurt him more than it did, and he’s now picking up on that.

Also - why are you ‘ringing him when it’s late’? I wouldn’t ring an ex late at night, ever, because they’re an ex and not a partner. Maybe he just finds it weird. I would find it weird and annoying if I was getting late night phone calls from an ex.

Once a twunt, always a twunt. He is not capable of behaving like an adult, which is, of course, why you had to get rid in the first place.

Op means when the child maintenance is late !! 🤣🤣

Tell him to make a standing order then he won’t have to hear from you about it. Otherwise CMS if he’s not self-employed.

I went a long time doing the monthly begging. He withheld it if he wasn’t happy for some reason. CMS sorted that out pretty quickly once I got the courage to do it. He threw a tantrum but was having lots of them anyway.

My ego isn’t bruised I just thought he would be happy as he was the one that moved on not me. I’m well over that part now.

I mean, you rejected him, and he's not a nice person, of course he's bitter. But why would you still care? The opposite of love isn't hate OP, it's indifference.