AIBU to throw a surprise birthday party 8 days before their actual birthday

[DinoNuggetsRUs]

I want to throw my mum a surprise 60th birthday party however the room I want to book is booked out on the Saturday I want it (the day before her birthday). They’ve said the Friday is available.
Fridays are always a little inconvenient with people having to get home from work and get ready and also there will be some people travelling to get there. Would it be weird to do it the Saturday before? Making it 8 days before her actual birthday?

it’s actually my husbands birthday on that day (he hates birthdays so isn’t bothered, was actually his suggestion) and he’s very excited at the prospect of me telling my mum I’m planning a surprise birthday party for him, and getting him to the room without him clocking in for her to find it’s actually a room full of her pals.

So what would you say, the Friday that’s closer to her birthday or the Saturday the week before?

Does she like surprises, or does she put up with them (fake grin)?

If you think she'll enjoy it, and you can get all her friends to keep their mouths tightly zipped, go for the Saturday.

If not, your DH is going to have one helluva not-surprise party with all your mums pals and her cake

At least she can't complain that it was not a surprise 👀

If I were your mum I would feel embarrassed "stealing" your DH's birthday. Unless she's a narcissist and doesn't care go for friday.

If you were her mum, you’d know her husband wasn’t fussed about his birthday and had suggested the ploy. You wouldn’t be stealing anything and no one would be banging on about narcissists. Different families are different. Shocking, I know

I would know that it's his birthday and other people would as well so it would be awkward for sure.

The husband doesn't care about the birthday, weird that you'd be embarrassed about stealing something he doesn't even want. Are you generally prone to over dramatics?

Good idea. A surprise for which she’ll be correctly dressed.

Well she’ll definitely be surprised! I think it’s a good idea.

🤣 I don't care for my birthday at all. I just wouldn't feel at ease people showing up to celebrate me when I know it's my son in law's birthday. Then I wouldn't be at ease with a surprise party ever so maybe my opinion doesn't count.😅

Surprise birthday parties are the work of the devil. I am about to be 60, and if someone did that for me then I would never speak to them again. Seriously.
Most people of our age do not want a party - we're 60, not 6

You have to be absolutely 100% sure that your mother would be happy. Or spend your money on a holiday/trip etc that she would enjoy.

Cynic17 - slightly ungrateful.

It’s not too early. I’ve been to a 60th where the party was 19 days before the actual birthday, this is going back to the mid 2000’s and the room wasn’t available on the desired dates.

OP OH doesn’t care about his birthday…. I mean people will know about it who are in the family not necessarily OP DM’s pals….. but if she’s going to get up on stage to thank everyone for coming, she’ll likely acknowledge that it’s her SIL birthday too…..

I’m guessing it’s not a big birthday for your DH?