to ask to put tv on at sisters house...

[ohtobe4]

Hi. We're having lunch at sisters house tomorrow, but really want to watch the two boat races. Would IBU to ask for the tv to be put on in the background, and turn it up for the actual races?
We loosely know someone in both the men and women races.

My mum thinks it will be rude of me to ask for the tv on. I thought it would be ok.
What do others think?
(We have a slightly stilted relationship with them and they won't be interested in the races at all.)

I don't think it would be unreasonable to ask.

Can’t you just watch it when you get home? It’s a bit rude especially if you don’t have a good relationship with them

Watch it on your phone maybe? I wouldn’t find it rude if someone knew someone in the race. A relatives, I wouldn’t think twice.

Watch it later, on catch-up.

I think it would be absolutely fine. You're with family, and each race only lasts about fifteen minutes. It's not as if you're asking to watch a feature film.

I think it's rude as you are putting her in the awkward position of having to say no if she doesn't want it on. Can't you watch it later when you get home?

That is what iplayer is for. And keep off the news/social media until you get home so you don’t find out the result

What’s the situation - a sit down meal that your sister is cooking for an occasion (family birthday etc). Will people other than your family be there?
Or is it a more casual “just pop round for some lunch if you’re free and the kids can play in the garden” type of thing?

If it’s an occasion or she’s cooking a nice meal, then I think it would be very rude to ask to have the tv on.

No YANBU. You say it’s a slightly stilted relationship so might actually be useful to maybe having something to watch together even if it’s not their usual thing and helps make the day more informal which is surely a better thing. I mean they can only say no.

Did you grow up with your sister? Can’t you gage what they might think? Seems odd to think so deeply about asking your own sibling a basic question.

it's a sit down meal which we do about twice a year. Youngest DC is 15.

Maybe I should just watch it later.

@MoominMai
This is exactly my thinking.

On the tv while you’re actually eating? I think that is definitely unreasonable. If you’re sitting around having a glass of wine after eating, or maybe even during dessert, then I think it’s ok to ask.
I would ask discreetly though, so your sister feels comfortable to say no, not put on the spot in front of everyone.

If it’s a meal you only go to twice a year, surely you don’t want the race dominating the occasion? Watch the race when you get home.

I that case I think it would be unreasonable of you.

I wouldn’t say it’s rude as it’s your sister. I might not at someone else’s house but I definitely would at my sister’s.

We don’t have a stilted relationship though, it’s the exact opposite.

It’s rude if you’re eating. If everyone is sitting around chatting then you could ask to put it on silent. Even better wait till you are home and can enjoy it in peace.

Yanbu tbh, it's your sister! Is it going to be a really formal atmosphere?

You can ask, and if it’s just for the races rather than all the preamble, and it’s not while you’re actually going to be sat down eating, I don’t see why not. It’ll be all of, what, 15 minutes?

But equally she can say no.

It would be incredibly rude and I say that as a rower who has raced that same course many times and often has friends competing. Record it. Watch it when you get home.

Record it and watch when you get home.

I think its rude.

If it were an acquaintance, no. Suck it up. Watch when I get home.

But at family I would definitely ask. My family would be excited that I knew people in the race and want to watch and root for them too.