To ask if you’ve ever fallen out with a friend and then rekindled things?

[HardyDuck]

If so, what happened? How long was the gap? Who reached out first and how did it go?

Just curious about how often friendships come back around after distance or conflict and what made it work (or not).

Fell out with best friend aged 19. Didn’t talk for 4-5 years. We met up again for a coffee and were pleasant but our lives has moved on and we didn’t have most of the details so we weren’t back to being close. It was odd. We left on good terms but just like strangers.
Then saw her another 5 years later and she said some really sweet things about our memories together etc. it was nice. But it was sad.

also fell out with a friend just before Covid and she is very stubborn and I don’t think she would ever consider a re-contacting

No,once it’s done it’s done

I didn’t exactly fall out but after a good friend moved out of London and started a family we drifted. I found I was doing all the travelling - fair enough when she had young kids but I did it before she had kids and when I eventually had mine was still doing it! We then occasionally made plans to meet halfway point but she would cancel last minute so I let things lie. Then about 15 years later her DH reached out. I sort of responded noncommittally but it wasn’t til a couple years later she called and we chatted and next thing she came down to visit (I had moved even further out of London after my DH passed away) with her husband and her grown kids. Then another visit on her own and we see each other a few times a year. If we lived closer probably more often. It was like falling back into our old friendship, though obviously we have other obligations now but she still seems the same.
Distance seems to be the main reason for friendships drifting for me, and I do miss them.