To ask is it worth it?

[Somethinginbetween]

I have quite bad PNA and we’d like to go on holiday this year, I think we and our DC would enjoy it and I’d like to make those memories. I worry about a lot of things though and don’t know if the worry once there would make the trip a bit of a waste. For instance I would be fussing about if the cot will be ok to use, worrying if we need medical care in an emergency while there, etc. DC are young so wouldn’t necessarily notice if we didn’t go. Last time we went abroad was pre kids. I love the idea of going but in reality don’t know if I’ll just find things to worry about to excess when I’m there. Then it would be a very expensive new location to worry in, rather than the treat for us all I have in my head. Would you go in this situation? I am receiving support but probably won’t be entirely worry free by then I don’t imagine. We can go on holiday but obv on maternity leave the money could always be better repurposed if we didn’t go - but I really want to go.

YABU - go anyway, you might relax more than you think

YANBU - if your anxiety is bad it’s not worth the money honestly

Perhaps a holiday in the UK might suit you better for now?

Honestly if you really suffer with anxiety I’d wait for now, go when you’ve had more time/therapy and will be better equipped to cope.

I had no PPA/PPD and still found travelling a bit stressful with my baby!

Thank you x

I’m genuinely trying not to be cruel when I say this but, as someone who lives with a spouse with anxiety, it’s very difficult. If you’re very anxious, you’re unlikely to be the only one who doesn’t have a good time because of this.

In your shoes, I’d put the holiday fund towards additional treatment with a focus on being able to holiday next year.

What about a UK holiday?