AIBU to ask the nanny to do babysitting?

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BearClaire · 11/04/2025 16:17

AIBU to ask the nanny to do babysitting? Our nanny has been great for 2 months with our 2 children during the week. We’d love some occasional evening/weekend babysitting to go on the odd date night. Is it too much to ask her, or should we look elsewhere? Don’t want to be unfair, but a couple of times each month would be amazing. Thoughts?

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Macaroni46 · 16/04/2025 21:38

Drivingmissrangey · 16/04/2025 21:21

I always offer to our nanny first incase she wants the extra money. To be honest I expect her to say yes during the week, I made it very clear at the start that we would probably need a few nights a month due to work commitments. But all paid as overtime and usually at least a couple of weeks notice. On the weekend if she’s free she says yes, if she’s not she often recommends a nanny friend.

Why do you expect her to say yes during the week? Surely her evenings are for her to use as she pleases once she’s finished her working day?

JustAnotherManicMomday · 16/04/2025 21:42

Why not say we are thinking of having the occasional date night and wondered if you would like the overtime or if you might have any recommendations. That way she had first refusal but has the option to say no without feeling awkward.

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