To ask if your kids with larger age gaps get on?

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Currently have a DD who is 6 in a few months, we’re in steps of TTC for baby no2.

One of the things that worries me is they’ll not have a close relationship, due to the larger age gap. I understand this might be because of my own experience ( oldest of 5, youngest sibling is 8 ) there was 11 years between me and the second eldest.

So thought I’d pop on here and ask if your kids are close?
is there any resentment from older child? This worries me as we’re very very close, and I don’t want her to feel left behind as silly as that sounds.

I just think it’s a different type of relationship. I have close in age siblings who I played with growing up and we have all that shared history.

My youngest sibling is 12 years younger than me so was only 6 when I left for university in London and then stayed there for jobs etc. So barely knew him at all (I went home for holiday but very different to growing up together.)

However he is also now at uni in London so we are building an adult relationship and I’m actually finding i get on better with him than the brother close in age. But if he hadn’t chosen to come to uni in the same city we would have never found this out!

There's 7 years between my two. They were very close when my youngest was a toddler but from when he was about 4 years old they stopped being so close, now (at 14 and 7) DD is mostly annoyed by DS while he still thinks she's great but she is kind to him often and when she babysits she plays with him actively so I think there's hope they'll be close again in the future.

I was close to one of my older brothers when I was little who was 7 or so years older.

There's 13 years in-between my 2,dgd, they adore each other. The youngest is over the moon when the older one comes home from school, and she goes straight to see her as well. It's so lovely to see.

I really do feel it is personality. I think it's nice to hope they will get on but not worry about it and don't force it as they are their own individials

My nieces are 6yrs apart, didn’t get on as kids but very close as young adults