Holiday bedrooms

[GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing]

Not really an AIBU but a WWYD

If you were a single Mum and had a 11 yo DS and a 16 yo DD, who didn’t want to share together on holiday, but you could only afford a two bed place, which child would you share a twin room with, and which would you give the double room?

Neither room will be horrible, I don’t mind sharing with either of them. 11 yo has ADHD.

It’s only three nights in the UK but getting three rooms isn’t an option.

Feels like the wrong message to give the big room to the younger, male child, but equally if it was a dad with a 16 yo DS and 11 yo DD it would be a no brained to give the girl their own room!

Edit - I’d be happy to give either one the run of the twin room during the day and would only sleep there

I just mean a bedroom, i assumed you meant a holiday home of some sort. I just meant is there one child you’d feel the need to be in a room with? Have you asked them if any of them want to share with you? I would just have them both share but if they wanted chill out time one of them can use your bedroom

All things being equal, I would give the older child her own room. Soon, your son definitely won’t want to share with you, so use this window to let her have a turn.

However, this really comes down to personality more than anything. Some 11yo boys are going to be uncomfortable sharing a room with mom, some will not. Some kids need alone time to recharge or to fall asleep, others do not.

Which one needs their own room?

I can't see the problem with them sharing unless one of them needs their own space then obviously it's pretty obvious which one should have a room by themselves??

My oldest would probably take the sofa.
But share with youngest.

What are their thoughts on? Will either kick off

I would get them to play rock, paper, scissors. Best of 3.

Although DS would probably want share with me

I’d share with DD and then, on arrival, let her pick the room to share.

Unfortunately the other room has a double bed!

Thanks so much everyone.

Ill probably either see who is more bothered, let them do rock paper scissors or similar, or maybe let them switch half way.

I’d still give her the choice, so it doesn’t all go DS’s way.

Is there not a sofa bed? A lot of rentals have them to get to the biggest occupancy they can.

But I’d give the oldest the option sharing with me in the twin or top and tail double as the same sex.

If there is a sofa bed I’d probably take that or offer oldest double or sofa. On the basis of sometimes both have TVs anyway as long as everyone isn’t getting up at the asscrack of dawn.

Theres no sofa bed and also none of us would enjoy sleeping in the living area.

Definite hard no to top and tail! There are three separate beds in the house, so there will definitely be one person per bed.

I appreciate the thought though.

The earliest riser of the three of us is usually the 16 yo. But she’d happily go off into the living area in the morning.

Obviously a mum should share with a daughter and not a son. It’s not about who gets the biggest room, it’s about what’s appropriate / inappropriate!

You say obviously but various people are saying otherwise- or that it doesn’t matter.

Obviously if he was a bit older I’d think that but he’s still very much a child - he’s quite young for his age.

Still I appreciate your view so thank you.

Which child is longer? They should get the double bed.

There's nothing wrong with a mum sharing with her 11yo son so I don't really think you need a "boys' room" and a "girls room".

Flip a coin or as you said roc, paper, scissors. That way it’s up to fate.

Or you take the double and make them share.

Could you offer some kind of inducement to share? One child gets it if they're willing to go in the twin with you, and both children get it if they'll share the twin.

I’d put the kids together in the twin room and have the double yourself. Kids get dressed in bathroom if they want privacy

I think at that age they're both mature enough to be told the facts and asked to collaborate on a solution. I'd sit them down, explain that a three bedroom place is not an option financially, and all of you decide together.

Obviously this only applies if you as the parent would be happy with any of the possible setups!

The longest is me, but the single beds aren’t kiddy beds, they’re fine for most adults (we’ve been in similar before).