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Anyone read about the mum getting arrested for taking her dcs ipads?

92 replies

Trumpsgoneloco · 11/04/2025 09:41

I'm so confused by this story, parents are constantly told to be more proactive around tech - I've often confiscated screens myself & that police are too stretched to deal with stolen cars etc.

www.lbc.co.uk/news/uk/surrey-police-uk-mother-arrested-childs-ipad-vanessa-brown/

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CallMeFlo · 11/04/2025 21:31

XxSideshowAuntSallyx · 11/04/2025 21:18

Surrey Police have responded to the story on their Facebook page and there is way more to it than her confiscating the iPads.

But noone will be interested in that. Why let the facts get in the way of a good story.

CallMeFlo · 11/04/2025 21:38

So the police were called initially for a welfare check. The 4 police officers were actually only there long enough for the second crew to let the first crew leave at the end of the shift because they were still awaiting an ambulance. She also denied any knowledge of the ipads despite them being her children's

Anyone read about the mum getting arrested for taking her dcs ipads?
thebrollachan · 11/04/2025 21:56

Well, that's as clear as mud. They attended a school, and a house, because of a safety concern. A man told them devices had been stolen, even though he knew they hadn't. Why? What on earth was going on that would create a safety concern at (ultimately) three different locations? I know it's none of our business, but really the police shouldn't have bothered to tell us anything if they're going to be this gnomic.

CallMeFlo · 11/04/2025 21:59

What on earth was going on that would create a safety concern at (ultimately) three different locations

Trying to locate the person the concern was about? The person they were concerned enough about to call an ambulance for.

BlumminFreezin · 11/04/2025 22:02

CallMeFlo · 11/04/2025 21:38

So the police were called initially for a welfare check. The 4 police officers were actually only there long enough for the second crew to let the first crew leave at the end of the shift because they were still awaiting an ambulance. She also denied any knowledge of the ipads despite them being her children's

So much more to the story.

She outright lied to the police when they attended.

Fuck about and find out 🤷‍♀️

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 11/04/2025 22:19

it seems likely that the ex was a cop himself. which explains why his colleagues were so quick to rush to investigate this, and arrest this woman.
(most people complain that the police don't even try to locate stolen property when it's reported to them)

Tomatotater · 11/04/2025 22:23

The immediate attendance at a property and the attendance at the school sounds like a child protection concern, so the first incident where there was a report of a concern for safety would clearly be right for police to go round, especially if the concern was about a child. The iPad situation sounds like he was using his kids ipads to track his ex wife or track where the kids were. I'm not sure why the woman didn't just say she had them and she had confiscated them.

CallMeFlo · 11/04/2025 22:24

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 11/04/2025 22:19

it seems likely that the ex was a cop himself. which explains why his colleagues were so quick to rush to investigate this, and arrest this woman.
(most people complain that the police don't even try to locate stolen property when it's reported to them)

Oh fuck off. That's a ridiculous leap

Did you see the part where they actually called an ambulance for someone. It wasn't initially reported as a theft. It was a welfare call

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 11/04/2025 22:42

CallMeFlo · 11/04/2025 22:24

Oh fuck off. That's a ridiculous leap

Did you see the part where they actually called an ambulance for someone. It wasn't initially reported as a theft. It was a welfare call

Edited

Charming.
Do you talk like that to everyone whose opinions you don't agree with?
Are you an aggrieved misogynist man and/or police officer yourself?

It's not a ridiculous leap. It's based on a comment I saw beneath one of the newspaper articles about this incident.

It would potentially explain why the officers in this case decided to act in the way they did (cos the complainant was their mate) and treat this as 'theft' when it wasn't, and might also explain why the woman wasn't so keen to 'cooperate' (or just didn't understand what they were going on about) when they turned up on her mum's doorstep and accused her of being in possession of stolen goods.

We have no idea why an ambulance was called, or who it was called for, and whether or not this was also done on the basis of false allegations made by some controlling bloke...

Icequeen01 · 11/04/2025 23:06

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 11/04/2025 22:19

it seems likely that the ex was a cop himself. which explains why his colleagues were so quick to rush to investigate this, and arrest this woman.
(most people complain that the police don't even try to locate stolen property when it's reported to them)

Oh do stop talking bollocks.

CallMeFlo · 11/04/2025 23:26

Do you talk like that to everyone whose opinions you don't agree with?
Are you an aggrieved misogynist man and/or police officer yourself?

Only ones who talk absolute utter bollocks and make up what they don't know

And no I'm neither

DancingNotDrowning · 12/04/2025 09:10

I don't think that police statement improves the situation.

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 12/04/2025 09:14

DancingNotDrowning · 12/04/2025 09:10

I don't think that police statement improves the situation.

Nope. However, it does show that it was a bit more complicated than “mum arrested for confiscating her children’s Ipads.”.

fluffyblanky · 12/04/2025 09:17

Unfortunately I have no respect for the police after how they dealt with me in an RTA (not my fault) and a recent break in to my property they didn’t attend or do anything at all.

pinkingshears · 12/04/2025 12:20

Bigfatsunandclouds · 11/04/2025 09:54

No, they were the property of her children if they were given as gifts. The mother or father can confiscate items of their children. It sounds like a vindictive ex continuing control.

It doesn't say who denied their whereabouts, it sounded from the article like the grandmother denied the whereabouts.

This is a ridiculous overreach by police.

Agreed. The iPads belonged to the kids (gifted by Dad).
Mum thought they needed removing (temporarily?).
Dad with a grudge reported them as 'stolen' and put the Police onto her.
Ridiculous waste of public resources.

However, I knew a family where the 15 y/o Dd's smartphone was temporarily 'taken away' by parents for bad behaviour and social workers informed the parents that it was to be returned as they were damaging her social networks.

Exdonkeylover · 12/04/2025 17:50

XxSideshowAuntSallyx · 11/04/2025 21:18

Surrey Police have responded to the story on their Facebook page and there is way more to it than her confiscating the iPads.

Yes, they've said they were already at her house, when they got the call. Using find my iPad, found them in the house, but she denied all knowledge of them, then refused to cooperate with the police, therefore was arrested.

If she'd explained everything at the start, I'm.sure it could have been resolved straight away. Guessing (as Plod statement doesn't say) that they went to the school to enquire with children what had happened.

Londonwaiting · 12/04/2025 17:54

Lookuptotheskies · 11/04/2025 09:49

So the kid's dad reported the iPads as stolen knowing mum had them?! Jesus. 🙄🤦

Edited

Yes, this is the real story. Sounds like he was weaponising the police due to a disagreement with his Ex over screen time for kids.

TimeConsuming · 12/04/2025 19:20

Trumpsgoneloco · 11/04/2025 10:02

I'm just more shocked the police actually attended it tbh.

Yes. Any chance to arrest/intimidate a woman at the behest of a man. The police know what they’re doing — so it’s deliberate. If they don’t know what they’re doing, they’re incompetent/not fit for purpose.

croydon15 · 12/04/2025 19:30

I can't understand how come that the police responded when they never seem to attend burglaries etc. Talk about over zealous.

Arran2024 · 12/04/2025 19:35

Exdonkeylover · 12/04/2025 17:50

Yes, they've said they were already at her house, when they got the call. Using find my iPad, found them in the house, but she denied all knowledge of them, then refused to cooperate with the police, therefore was arrested.

If she'd explained everything at the start, I'm.sure it could have been resolved straight away. Guessing (as Plod statement doesn't say) that they went to the school to enquire with children what had happened.

They were at address (a) for the welfare call when the man reported the theft of the ipads, which the tracker was showing at address (b). So the police went to address (b) where they spoke to the woman in her 50s ie the mum, who didn't cooperate.

We don't know why she didn't cooperate but it looks like she wasn't at the house for the welfare call.

Undercover4ever · 12/04/2025 20:32

All I can say is, ex asked for a welfare check (abuse involved) despite there being a note on another police system not to engage. Over zealous officer passed on check to other force and officer carried out said check at midnight! and then when i explained, they apologised as did the other force when they realised (two forces involved because of distance). It happens that ex's like to continue control and then involve police. Generally I think they are clued up nowadays because of more DV training but my understanding from an DA advisor is that it really depends on the force and also the individual officer involved. It also depends on the schools and any SS involvement.. #

I must admit my first thought on reading the headline was I bet there's an ex involved!

Theunamedcat · 12/04/2025 20:47

They did all this but the amount of stories you read about people tracking their own iPhone to an address because the police won't get involved and even with that the police STILL won't get involved because "it might not be accurate" yet they do all this over a welfare check and a couple of pads?

Something doesn't add up

springbringshope · 12/04/2025 20:54

Boohai · 11/04/2025 09:45

They didn't belong to her. They were the property of her ex. She lied about not knowing where they were.

Nope. They belonged to the kids. And the police admitted she was completely within her rights to take them in a parenting capacity and tell them to do their homework. She’s a teacher. She was quite reasonable. It happened in my town. The local social media pages are in uproar. The man should be charged for wasting police time. The police should be embarrassed to have been used as pawns

springbringshope · 12/04/2025 20:58

Exdonkeylover · 12/04/2025 17:50

Yes, they've said they were already at her house, when they got the call. Using find my iPad, found them in the house, but she denied all knowledge of them, then refused to cooperate with the police, therefore was arrested.

If she'd explained everything at the start, I'm.sure it could have been resolved straight away. Guessing (as Plod statement doesn't say) that they went to the school to enquire with children what had happened.

And you believe this? The woman is a teacher. She is more than capable of explaining. And surprise surprise the police body cams recording the actual event have disappeared
so frankly nothing they say has any credibility. The police have now admitted the mother did nothing wrong.
the ex has history of being controlling and calling the police erroneously. That the police have been stupidly willing to be used as his pawns.

local Facebook groups ablaze in support of her and stating the ex is awful

thebrollachan · 12/04/2025 21:08

She's not very lucky with men, is she? She was sued by another ex for defamation after she put up some posts about her experiences of DV (without naming anyone). He lost! The decision is on the court website but the MSM seem to have avoided doing any proper journalism, in favour of pointing at the mere existence of the lawsuit and waggling their eyebrows suggestively.