I should preface this by saying that I'm pretty sure I'm not being unreasonable, but that I don't entirely trust my own judgement where this man is concerned.
So, after many difficult years, last April I finally got my s**t together to stand up for myself and set some boundaries in my relationship. It was really hard, but I committed to not making idle threats and to follow through when my boundaries were ignored by my husband. I won't go into details, but I'd asked my husband to sort out a financial problem, that he'd caused and instead of nagging him to do it, I just told him he had a month to sort it out, or I would. Long story short, he didn't sort it, so I did instead. At which point he got in a right strop and informed me that we were now officially separated. We talked and agreed on a hiatus to last no longer than one year. I promised not to hassle him for a decision on whether he wanted to work on our marriage or not. And I stuck to this.
One year later, I ask if he's come to a decision. He tells me that he doesn't want to discuss by phone call or text. Fair enough, but given he moved 3 hours away I can't see a way that we will be able to talk face to face without DS being there.
In my head, if he wanted to he with me he'd have said, so I'm thinking that it's time to accept the end of my marriage and start living again. But then I think that maybe I'm being unfair. So, AIBU to move on and not wait for him any longer?
YABU: you should wait to talk to him even if it takes more months.
YANBU: you shouldn't feel bad for moving on with your life.
What do you think oh wise MumsNetters?