People that attention seek in public…

[Eyes98]

Why do you do it?
say you are in a supermarket for example and are talking either on the phone or to whoever you are with in a loud tone of voice where it becomes obvious not that you are hard of hearing, but want to be noticed by those around you - what do you get of that and why do people do it do you think?

Can't sat I really get too bothered by them!

How do you know they aren't hard of hearing ? I lost some of my hearing at a young age. I'm hard of hearing rather than profoundly deaf but I do talk loudly because of it. I'm 43, and have been this way since a teenager. You wouldn't know to look at me.

I don’t think anyone talks on the phone in public because they are desperate to be noticed by those around them?

No, I don't think so either. They just naturally have a loud, carrying voice, or the person on the other end is hard of hearing or in a noisy environment, and the person on the phone isn't crippled by a fear of inadvertently mildly annoying someone in the frozen food aisle.

How do you know the person they are talking to isn't hard of hearing?

Even if the person you can see is not hard of hearing, you don't know anything about the person they are talking to. When my mum calls me, I have to shout, as she refuses to wear hearing aids. Doesn't help that her phone always makes her sound like she is at the bottom of a well too.

Really don't think this is a thing.

Unless they're a performance artist or something - I guess they're looking for attention.

I do frown at the performance parents. Everyone else I assume to be hard of hearing or ADHD like me (I can be VERY loud).

I think 'attention seeking' is far less common than 'people who assume others are attention seeking', tbh.

People don't actually realise how loud they're being. It's the same in open plan offices. People who are very loud on the phone aren't doing it on purpose, it's just the way they talk as they get more animated. They're not aware of it.

Even if they were seeking attention, and the likelihood is that they weren’t, so what? Why does it matter? Why does it bother you?

Urgh I was at the gym the other day and there were two young girls being very loud and giggly on the mats. Not a problem particularly but they were constantly looking around as if to see they were getting attention. Totally pointless.

I don't think it's attention seeking, I think it's just being inconsiderate and antisocial. They don't generally care about other people, as opposed to wanting to be noticed.

More totally oblivious to their surroundings. I mean how is talking about whether you want fish or steak for dinner interesting to anyone but the person asking?