How to deal with this once and for all!

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I am sick to the back teeth of being pestered for money from my mother’s so called “friend” who does her nails. Mothers pal has been very rude and unpleasant towards me whilst my mother was very ill and knowing only what my mother has told her, ( back story, mother has dementia and tells constant lies about me not visiting/helping, when i go every day), has rung on a few occasions and been abusive towards me, accusing me of neglecting mother. As i am not willing to be treated this way, i told the person to deal directly with my mother for payment. Mother always has money,but claims she has none, ( she hides it). Person has now got friends to contact me, harass me and ask me for money. As far as i am concerned she is to deal directly with mother, which i have repeatedly said to her friend. I am not willing to deal with the woman any more, and have refused to pay. AIBU?

Just send a text saying all payments are through your mum and block her.

Tell them to stop doing her nails?

Done that already, but as she isn’t being paid by mum who claims she has none money she keeps coming to me!

I have tried to disengage and said i want nothing to do with their arrangement ,but sick of bring asked for money. Have blocked them both,so hopefully they will get the message and stop attending!

What a difficult situation!

Is the friend a "friend that happens to do your mother's nails", or is she a nail technician that has become a friend?

Can you talk to your mother and ask her if you can arrange for someone else to do her nails?

Thanks for your reply, she has become a friend over the years. However has been more concerned about getting her money recently. Have asked mother to go to the person near to where she lives,but her “friend” is the only person she will go to and she will have nothing said against her. Even to the point that she wont accept friend has been rude to me, my OH and her carer in the past! Said friend seems desperate for the money, with many missed calls to my mother!!

I would send a final message telling her to get payment from HER client upfront and that you have not been nor will ever be responsible for paying for your mum's nails. Depending on how strongly you feel you could say that any further harassment for money and you will post her harassment on social media tagging her business.

Tell her if she continues to harass you that you will report her to the police.

Just tell her it’s nothing to do with you, she speaks to your mum and refuses to do her nails until she is paid. Then ask for the money upfront