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Things you remember from your childhood that would not be ok today!

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Starlight1984 · 10/04/2025 14:18

Light-hearted and inspired by the comments on the baby in the pub thread (and TikTok!)😀

But what are things you remember from your childhood that people would be absolutely outraged at today?!

I remember being babysat by our neighbours child when I was 4/5 and she was about 12/13. God knows what she would have done if anything went wrong as there were no mobile phones to get hold of our parents?! 🤔

Also remember going to the pub in the summer but kids weren't allowed inside so we sat in the beer garden with a coca cola and bag of crisps whilst the adults were inside 😂

OP posts:
JasmineAllen · 10/04/2025 17:22

Victoriawould24 · 10/04/2025 16:41

Sharing a bath with siblings or even family friends kids and sharing bath water as we got older.

This is still a thing !!!

localnotail · 10/04/2025 17:22

Wildflowers99 · 10/04/2025 15:03

I just remember most things being about my parents enjoyment, with the odd treat for us. Whereas it seems the other way round now. As kids we were regularly taken to pubs, their friends houses for the evening (adults getting on the beers while we ran around screaming with the other couples kids till midnight), garden centres, church. Whereas now everything is expected to be a child friendly or child centric experience, with adults getting the odd ‘treat’ once in a blue moon when they can get a babysitter. It’s just totally different.

This is really interesting! Thinking about it, I can remember this, too. Parents just got on with their lives and kids were just like a dog you take with you when you have to go somewhere )) or leave at home, or with friends.

I remember being left on my own from about 3-4 years old.

BeatleBattleInABottle · 10/04/2025 17:23

Me and a couple of friends saw 3 teachers in the teacher's smoking lounge being VERY friendly. A lock was added not long after and a sign went up saying pupils were not allowed to knock on the door. The teachers would never open the door properly after that either, instead they'd keep it as closed as possible and slide in through the gap. I REALLY want to know what they were hiding. Actually, maybe I don't.

You could smell the room through the door. I bet it still stinks even now.

Our cross country route included running unsupervised through a forest which was notorious for various louche characters. We were given extra long lessons for cross country and some of the more sexually aware girls used to disappear with various men during those runs...

CiaoMeow · 10/04/2025 17:24

Mr Jones, my teacher at Catholic Primary School told me at a swimming lesson, 'pretend someone is behind you about to stick a knife up your b*side ' because he wanted me to swim faster.

Another swimming lesson, I was scared of jumping in, so Mr Jones and another teacher, took it in turns to push me off the side by shoving me in by pushing their feet into the small of my back. They did it over and over again with the whole class now fully dressed and watching.

GettingMySpringOn · 10/04/2025 17:28

localnotail · 10/04/2025 17:22

This is really interesting! Thinking about it, I can remember this, too. Parents just got on with their lives and kids were just like a dog you take with you when you have to go somewhere )) or leave at home, or with friends.

I remember being left on my own from about 3-4 years old.

We used to be told. Children should be seen and not heard. If they wanted a sociable eve

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 10/04/2025 17:32

CiaoMeow · 10/04/2025 17:24

Mr Jones, my teacher at Catholic Primary School told me at a swimming lesson, 'pretend someone is behind you about to stick a knife up your b*side ' because he wanted me to swim faster.

Another swimming lesson, I was scared of jumping in, so Mr Jones and another teacher, took it in turns to push me off the side by shoving me in by pushing their feet into the small of my back. They did it over and over again with the whole class now fully dressed and watching.

Some of them were just sadists and got away with it.

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 10/04/2025 17:35

IggyAce · 10/04/2025 16:35

Remember doing cross country in secondary school and the route actually left the school grounds and went down a back lane, no tall green fence in those days.

The bottom of our ‘back garden’ led onto some school playing fields with a football pitch.
Our fence was only knee high.
Once it was sunny my mum would leave our side gate open and half the neighbourhood would traipse up through our garden to jump over onto the fields.
Never seemed to bother her at all, or when they climbed back over late at night and the gate would rattle.

twinklystar23 · 10/04/2025 17:35

At age 3year my "car seat" in my Dads mini van was a tyre i sat on and i learnt to hold on tight to my parents front seats. My learning experience for not holding on was the tyre slid to the back of the van on a couple of occassions hitting the rear doors of the van, with mr on it. Dad did decide to make it a bit safer by tying the tyre in place with some rope!

pinkroses79 · 10/04/2025 17:35

I remember an educational trip to London at 16. We stayed in a hotel in Central London, and had excursions during the day but nothing much at night. At night the teachers got together drinking and all the students met in someone's room and got absolutely plastered. I remember we were all lying on the floor in the main hotel looking up at the ceiling with its elaborate lighting. I think someone complained and a teacher came along to tell everyone to go to bed. We all had a hangover the next day, but nothing was said about it.

Hwi · 10/04/2025 17:35

Buying ciggies for my dad and granddad when a small child in a corner shop. Getting into the neighbour's car to play in it with chums when the neighbours were away on holiday. Striking phone-boxes in the hope of coins popping out (they did!) and doing the same to the parking meters. Running down hotel corridors and knocking on doors as we ran.

Carnation25 · 10/04/2025 17:36

tedcherries · 10/04/2025 14:32

My teacher used to pull out our teeth when they were wobbly!

Mine too - grandchildren totally refuse to believe me!

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 10/04/2025 17:39

pinkroses79 · 10/04/2025 17:35

I remember an educational trip to London at 16. We stayed in a hotel in Central London, and had excursions during the day but nothing much at night. At night the teachers got together drinking and all the students met in someone's room and got absolutely plastered. I remember we were all lying on the floor in the main hotel looking up at the ceiling with its elaborate lighting. I think someone complained and a teacher came along to tell everyone to go to bed. We all had a hangover the next day, but nothing was said about it.

We went for the day at 15, on the train we all had no idea of how big it would be. The teachers said we could have the afternoon to ourselves. So of course we ended up on Oxford Street and a few girls were pissed when returned to get the train. The staff were drunker, so they got away with it.
We worked out some soap stars were in the next carriage (think cobbled street!) and one girl kept getting her huge boobs out and pressing them against the glass partition. The teachers were all asleep.
Bet Terry Duckworth never forgot it!

Catsandcannedbeans · 10/04/2025 17:40

Being taken to the pub everyday, falling asleep there and getting carried home by my drunk dad or drunk (and underage) brother. I also had a “job” at the bar. Count the bar tenders tips and bag them up, go and get more crisps and put them out, checking under the puggies for spare change that had dropped. I used to get £1, a pack of mini cheddars, and a chocolate bar per “shift”. Also once for my birthday the land lady let me “help” pour my dad’s pint. At first it was just jobs to keep me out the way, but once I was a tween she basically had me doing a stock up, pure cheek. I did end up working at a pub from 16-20, and I was promoted quickly to manager, so it payed off.

Also 8 of us (two adults, 6 kids) lived in a three bed. Took my kids to see where I grew up and they were absolutely horrified about sharing a room which is hilarious. I’m the youngest, so I did have my own room for a bit.

Shufflebumnessie · 10/04/2025 17:41

I was 9 and my 14 year old babysitter let me watch Carrie with her. We were both traumatised at the time, I'm still traumatised 36 years later 😅

We lived on the edge of a wood, with a river that ran through it & caves. In the summer, we'd head of into the woods in the morning with a packed lunch & only go home at dinner. We'd swim in the river, climb in the caves. No one knew exactly where we were, no mobile phones etc.

Although corporal punishment had been banned in schools for a few years, I remember our (very scary!) Headmaster dragging pupils by the ear, from their spot in the assembly hall to the front of the hall. Then holding them around the back of their neck & verbally ripping into them in front of everyone about whatever misdemeanor they'd committed. I was 7 & remember it vividly. He retired not long after that.

Riding my bike without a helmet.

My friends mum would smack her with the bristle side of a hairbrush as a punishment.

Jenkibuble · 10/04/2025 17:43

EscapeTheCastle · 10/04/2025 14:25

A teacher slapped me hard on the hands when I was in trouble for talking. This was 1979 or 1980.

When teachers were respected ! :)
I remember the HT of my primary school squaring up to a kid (did not touch him) but it had the desired effect and the boy changedhis behaviour pretty quickly !

JudgeJ · 10/04/2025 17:47

Terrythefish · 10/04/2025 16:19

One of the play activities on offer at my infant school was a sort of woodwork area in a little courtyard where kids aged 4 were allowed to use hammers, nails, saws and chisels entirely unsupervised on random wood offcuts

My son's nursery allowed them to do this. And that was only 8 years ago. I thought it was bloody brilliant and still do.

Kids are capable of more than we think. We just don't let them learn to be capable anymore. We assume they are incapable.

Totally agree, I think that the helicoptering parenting style is responsible for so many problems young people face today, their inability to tackle the simplest problem, expecting a 'grown up' to be there. Students locking themselves out of their flats or losing the keys and expecting someone from the office to get up at 3am, leave their sleeping children and go to the office to get the spare keys! Mummy then complaining because this didn't happen, they'd been told to call and pay a locksmith, the agent had 'a duty of care' to this 20 year old!

Jenkibuble · 10/04/2025 17:49

Starlight1984 · 10/04/2025 14:18

Light-hearted and inspired by the comments on the baby in the pub thread (and TikTok!)😀

But what are things you remember from your childhood that people would be absolutely outraged at today?!

I remember being babysat by our neighbours child when I was 4/5 and she was about 12/13. God knows what she would have done if anything went wrong as there were no mobile phones to get hold of our parents?! 🤔

Also remember going to the pub in the summer but kids weren't allowed inside so we sat in the beer garden with a coca cola and bag of crisps whilst the adults were inside 😂

What a great post !

Can't think of anything specifically from my childhood.

However, on holiday in Thailand (where health and safety is lapse / non existent)

, we washed elephants in a river with brooms. Got some amazing photos (kids were 10 and 12 at the time)
In contrast, unsure you would be allowed to even feed them here (UK)

JudgeJ · 10/04/2025 17:51

BrickHedgehog · 10/04/2025 15:31

I was born in the mid 60s so numerous things - no seat belts , dad smoked in the car ( and house ) , rode my horse on the road in flip flops and shorts with no hat . It’s amazing so many of us survived really .

But you did survive, as did we boomers many of whom played in some horrendously dangerous places. I recall in the '50s being about 8/9 going out after breakfast and coming home at tea time, we took a bottle of water, from the tap too, and a bit of bread. We thought we were miles away even though we weren't much further than the next road.

WavyRavey · 10/04/2025 17:51

Yep pub times here too, my best friends mum and dad took us to the pub every weekend, we'd all just run riot in the kids bit and the beer garden, not see her parents for hours and hours - it was great!

tryingtobesogood · 10/04/2025 17:53

WonderingWanda · 10/04/2025 14:30

No seat belts. Sleeping in the boot of an estate. Being left in the car outside the pub with a bottle of coke and crisps. School trips with kids sitting in the aisle of the coach. Getting drunk with my teachers as a 6th former.

All of those, especially being left in the car outside the pub and then my dad driving home drunk

FleaBeeBob · 10/04/2025 17:54

The nit nurse
Pink cake and pink custard
Hair wash was once a week I must have stank through puberty
Smoking everywhere in the house - maybe the smoke smell masked the smelly armpits and hair
Also sent to the shops to buy fags

The only Facts of life I was told by mum was the sticking bit of the pad goes on your knickers and periods were called whatsists and I’d have to go and but her the biggest and longest fat sanitary towels from the local chemist

twoshedsjackson · 10/04/2025 18:00

Even when I started teaching myself, spirit duplicators were still on use; The master copy was made with something similar to carbon paper (more than one colour was possible if you were being fancy, or music sheets with the stave already on there, ready for notes to be added) and this would be put on a duplicator where sheets lightly soaked in methylated spirit were passed over it on a roller. Thus, freshly-printed copies would give off delicate fumes, to be greedily inhaled.
When I was in the Girl Guides, the packing for summer camp was thus: hire furniture van, stack in first, the hard lumpy stuff like tent poles, then the soft, squishy stuff, like bedding rolls, then the guides themselves. Seatbelts? We didn't even have seats! Hilarious when the van cornered; we'd roll across, giggling. At one big camping event, we watched as another company arrived in a coach; we considered them hopeless softies.
On a recent edition of "The Repair Shop", I watched the craftsmen restore a child's cooking stove, where the miniature pots and pans were heated by resting over slides containing lit methylated spirits; happy memories of my own stove, although that one required the insertion of lit firelighters in the space underneath.
I still have my tinplate Micky Mouse teaset, with all those lovely sharp edges, and play figures of Looby Loo and Teddy (don't know what happened to Andy Pandy) made of painted lead.
One of my dollies had a fully equipped miniature handbag, with the accoutrements which any young lady might need: powder compact, hairbrush, comb. mirror, packet of 20 Players Weights. When most of my toys passed down the family, the miniature cigarettes stayed with me; I think attitudes were changing.
However, sweet cigarettes were a favourite purchase on a frosty morning, as your breath in the cold air could imitate smoking; it's what all grown-ups did......and my beloved late DF showed me how to manoeuvre the Old Holborn and a Rizla cigarette paper into a roll-up for him.....
The Inner London Education Authority was ahead of the law in abolishing corporal punishment, and I was very early on in my career when this happened one January, so one term into a school year. I remember one mummy earnestly enjoining me, "Never you mind the change in the law, Miss Twosheds, if you think my daughter needs a smack, you give her one!"
In fact, I was already against it on principle, knowing from my own schooldays at grammar school that it was perfectly possible to keep order without resorting to physical violence, but I had been routinely slapped (not that often!) at my own Junior School.

NewsdeskJC · 10/04/2025 18:00

Almost every aspect of my childhood

Special mention for when my 8 year old sister broke her arm falling off a makeshift swing on a building site.
I, being 9 had to walk her home and phone my mum at work to tell her. She huffing came home an hour later, blamed me and made me sit in thr back seat of the car with het for the hour or so drive to the nearest a and e.

NewsdeskJC · 10/04/2025 18:00

Almost every aspect of my childhood

Special mention for when my 8 year old sister broke her arm falling off a makeshift swing on a building site.
I, being 9 had to walk her home and phone my mum at work to tell her. She huffing came home an hour later, blamed me and made me sit in thr back seat of the car with het for the hour or so drive to the nearest a and e.

Ribenaberry12 · 10/04/2025 18:01

Bunking off school when I couldn’t be arsed and no one (least of all school) cared. I work in a school now and if a student isn’t in lesson within the first few minutes a whole safeguarding team are notified and their parents know about it asap. I used to disappear off with my mates for whole afternoons in the summer and lay in the fields. It was bliss.