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Things you remember from your childhood that would not be ok today!

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Starlight1984 · 10/04/2025 14:18

Light-hearted and inspired by the comments on the baby in the pub thread (and TikTok!)😀

But what are things you remember from your childhood that people would be absolutely outraged at today?!

I remember being babysat by our neighbours child when I was 4/5 and she was about 12/13. God knows what she would have done if anything went wrong as there were no mobile phones to get hold of our parents?! 🤔

Also remember going to the pub in the summer but kids weren't allowed inside so we sat in the beer garden with a coca cola and bag of crisps whilst the adults were inside 😂

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SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 11/04/2025 08:33

Omg the smoke was just awful, wasn't it?

I remember my stepdad used to smoke on the toilet in the downstairs loo, which was basically just a tiny cupboard, certainly no windows. He'd smoke an entire fag in there and when I went in afterwards I couldn't breathe. I used to spray loads of air freshener, thinking it would help clear the smoke and then I'd get in trouble for using it. They never twigged it was because I couldn't breathe, and I certainly didn't dare complain.

They'd smoke in the car with the windows up too and roll their eyes at us coughing in the back.

Hitting was beginning to become less acceptable in the 90s but my parents definitely still did it. Once I was at a friend's house and her mum took off her shoe and threw it at my friend, she missed and it hit me, but she didn't even apologise, she just carried on ranting at my friend like I wasn't there, and then she got sent to her room and I was awkwardly stood there like, "do I go too?" 😄

scalt · 11/04/2025 08:34

Suddenly a whole lot of memories came flooding back, from primary school in the 1980s.

When I fell and hit my head in the playground at primary school, a teacher took me straight to the nearby hospital in her car: she decided on the spot it wasn't a matter of school first aid. As far as I remember, she didn't even tell the office: she just took me straight out. It was before the school day started, so the adult I was with came too, and was able to bring me back afterwards.

When I was ill, the school flatly refused to call my dad because "he'd be busy at work", and the paperwork clearly stated that he was much easier to contact than my mum; and even I knew this. I had to stay in school until the end of the day. My dad wrote a polite letter in the next day to put them right.

The "getting changed for PE" routine, at primary: everybody down to vest and pants, put on shoes without socks, with the stern order "put your heels in your shoes!", walked to assembly hall, past the other classrooms of children who would giggle.

The teacher would always lock the classroom door when we were out of it; perhaps because we had proper scissors in those days. She would count us through the door, saying "hurry up, or you'll get locked in!" Once she did actually lock it while two children were still inside. She did unlock it again after a short pause.

One of the worst sins children could commit was doing something without being told, even if it was obvious we'd be told to do it in a moment. One teacher wrote "kitten" on the board, and so did more than half the class. She then did a slow march round the classroom, throwing children's books on the floor. She then made them pick them up, and hold them up in front of the class. After they had sat down, she said in a kinder voice "now write the word 'kitten'".

There was no corporal punishment (although some older teachers talked wistfully about it), but some teachers used to yank a child by the wrist while telling them off, and drag them around, perhaps saying "if I had my way, I'd be slapping you hard".

I overheard a boy telling a teacher that another boy had weed on him. The teacher casually discussed with the head what to do about it, in front of other children; they decided to make the offender write about it, and not be allowed to go to the toilet again that day, saying "if he wets himself, too bad". I'm not sure if they were joking or not.

Nothing particularly wrong with these, and actually I think some brave teachers might do these today: some boys who laughed when told off were then made to laugh in a mirror. Another time, some children who were playing with sticks in the playground were told not to, because they might go in somebody's eye. When they kept doing it, they were made to miss their next playtime, and they were blindfolded (sitting apart from everyone else), so they would know what it was like to lose sight. We had recently learned the story of Louis Braille.

At secondary school, the boys in years 7 and 8 were often made to play sports in "shirts, or skins": one side had to go bare-chested, to set them apart from the other side. This was outdoors on cold days as well.

Compash · 11/04/2025 08:37

KateWithTheGoodHair · 10/04/2025 16:09

Born 1978. In science. Experiments with radiation and they wrote in a book who was sitting the closest to the experiment so we could swap seats another time and wouldn’t be so exposed.

Also, buying from the off-license when blatantly 14.

Oh my god!!! 😱☢️

NewAgeNewMe · 11/04/2025 08:48

I’ve just remembered another inspired by a pp.

16 and at school in sixth form. Driving to the pub at lunchtime for a couple of drinks with some of the teachers and then driving back for afternoon lessons. 17 driving myself to the pub. Meeting teachers there.

A different world.

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 11/04/2025 08:51

I think my first teacher, when I was in reception, didn't know or forgot that corporal punishment had been outlawed the year I was born (1986) because she once slapped me on the hand. It would have been 1991 I think.
I would have only been 4 or 5 but I remember it clearly. We had been given worksheets with a little dog and a big dog, a little house and a big house, a little apple and a big apple etc. We were told to colour in the small items and not the bigger ones, I suppose to teach us the difference between big and little?
Anyway I thought it was unfair as there was more colouring to do on the big ones so why couldn't we colour them instead? So I coloured all the little ones then grabbed the white crayon and coloured the big ones white. I thought I was being very clever and would get away with it.
I didn't. She was really annoyed and slapped my hand.
Didn't even think anything of it for years as got slapped at home. What was the difference? 🤷‍♀️

toomuchfaff · 11/04/2025 08:54

Rosabloo · 10/04/2025 14:57

The teacher throwing a wooden blackboard duster at people’s heads if they were distracted, talking, not paying attention aimed to hit hard

I had this once, I saw it just in time and ducked and it went out the window behind me, 4th floor, I had to go get it from outside - like it was my fault I didn't let it whack me in the face hahahaha

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 11/04/2025 08:56

Poppymeldrum · 11/04/2025 08:14

My parents would drag us on holiday every year (same place,same hotel,same rooms just a different year)

Every single night,they would piss off to the pub a few miles away,leaving us in the room,get pissed out of their skulls and stagger home

One night a woman wandered into the hotel,found their room unlocked,got into their bed and was smoking away inches from my brothers face

My parents came back,found her and kicked her out before going to bed themselves

Guess who was the most judgemental of the mccanns for leaving their kids and having a meal yards from their room years later?

Nowadays,they'd find themselves the subject of ss,but not in the mid 80's,it was just a funny story to tell their mates-they where more pissed off over the fact she was smoking than the fact she could have ran off with one of us

If we ran out of seats in the car,one or two would sit in the boot and another in the footwell

The seat belt laws came in the day we where coming home from holiday and the car we where travelling in didn't have seat belts

We where told to sit and be still in the back

A mate of my mother's would come round,smoke a pack of 20 and then go home again

No thought to us kids

Ditto my chain smoking grandmother and aunt-the air would be thick with smoke but nobody opened a window

(In fact,if we said we couldn't breathe,we'd get a smack for whinging)

My brother had really bad asthma and nobody bothered-they just carried on chugging on their fags

Smacking wasn't an issue-my mother broke a cricket bat over my back and her friend grabbed my recorder and belted her ds so hard,it shattered

Nobody bothered about it-perfectly normal

In fact we'd go to school covered in bruises and nobody asked where we got them from

Did you ever remind your parents of what they did when they were ranting about the mccans? I wouldn't have been able to stop myself.
Weird how parents conveniently forget so much stuff

graceinspace999 · 11/04/2025 09:03

BoredZelda · 10/04/2025 14:36

Coming home from Primary School to an empty house, making sure I had the dinner on for my mum coming home at 6pm.

Same here - with a key on a string around my neck 😂

Thoughtsonstuff · 11/04/2025 09:09

maxelly · 10/04/2025 23:23

I think as well as the lack of adult supervision/freedom to roam and the normalisation of casual violence, the thing that people who grew up even 20 years after me (born in the 60s) don't really understand, and today's generation will never come close to comprehending is the aching, terrible boredom we experienced as children. We were lucky and did have a TV but there wasn't children's programming all the time, only for a short time a day and only one channel and my mother incredibly strictly regulated access to it in the belief too much would cause our brains to melt. There's nothing to touch waking at dawn as young children will, on a long rainy summer's day, knowing you can't play outside and you've read every scrap of reading material in the house three times over and can't afford the bus to town and the library and shops for another 3 days when you got your pocket money. It's really hard to comprehend now quite how torturous that was, but it did force you into playing with your siblings and neighbourhood kids, using your imagination and so on, there really wasn't any other option, you would literally be climbing the walls otherwise... Also why I think every kid in my village worked as soon as anyone would pay them anything for anything, like others have said we all did paper rounds and babysat and collected glasses in the pub or cut grass or ran errands or whatever would scrape us together a few pennies because bus trips into town were lifelines really. Today's kids who have grown up from birth with 24/7 tv and streaming and online shopping and ebooks just won't ever know that level of claw your own (or your sisters!) eyes out boredom!

So true. I was born in the early 70s and on a rainy day would watch raindrops on the window for hours to see which would hit the bottom first. Or watch the dust motes if it was sunny. I also out of desperation started reading the Bible just for the rude bits (disappointing, if anyone is thinking of doing similar).

ConnieHeart · 11/04/2025 09:12

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 11/04/2025 08:51

I think my first teacher, when I was in reception, didn't know or forgot that corporal punishment had been outlawed the year I was born (1986) because she once slapped me on the hand. It would have been 1991 I think.
I would have only been 4 or 5 but I remember it clearly. We had been given worksheets with a little dog and a big dog, a little house and a big house, a little apple and a big apple etc. We were told to colour in the small items and not the bigger ones, I suppose to teach us the difference between big and little?
Anyway I thought it was unfair as there was more colouring to do on the big ones so why couldn't we colour them instead? So I coloured all the little ones then grabbed the white crayon and coloured the big ones white. I thought I was being very clever and would get away with it.
I didn't. She was really annoyed and slapped my hand.
Didn't even think anything of it for years as got slapped at home. What was the difference? 🤷‍♀️

Similar happened to me. Teacher slapped me round the face for getting up to get the next worksheet

Poppymeldrum · 11/04/2025 09:12

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 11/04/2025 08:56

Did you ever remind your parents of what they did when they were ranting about the mccans? I wouldn't have been able to stop myself.
Weird how parents conveniently forget so much stuff

Yes,I did

Loudly

But my mother is a narcissist and will twist any story to suit herself

In this case she denied any wrong doing ('I wouldnt have left my babies!')

Then,when that failed,the tears came and then anger

My father backed her up ('we would never have left you!') and my brothers clearly remembered,but didn't want to rock the boat so claimed they didn't remember

I got endless people having a go at me for 'upsetting your mum with your lies'

Best laugh is,they went back out the following night

And the rest of the week-and again the following year

At least 5 miles away,no mobile phones,no way of contacting them-no thought about us

But nope,never happened apparently

(Every morning,after breakfast full English for them to mop up the hangover,we'd be dragged to the beach for 10 hours with no buckets or spades,or even a paddle in the sea while they slept off their hangovers,sat snoozing in their deckchairs-rinse and repeat all week)

I remember taking mine on a caravan holiday one year,and I left the kids asleep in their beds while I walked round the side of the caravan to bring some washing in-I was 30/40 seconds

This got back to her and she threatened to phone ss for leaving them!

Natsku · 11/04/2025 09:16

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 11/04/2025 08:15

The same school I walked alone to from Y3 now doesn't even let kids leave alone until Y5 AND they have to have written parental permission.
It also now has double gates (as in one set of huge metal electric gates, a short walk and then a second set of huge electric gates) to get in and out of the playground. In my day, it was completely open, and locals would take shortcuts through it to get to the shops 😄

The playground is completely open at our primary school school except for the side where the preschool is which has a fence and a gate (that the children can reach to open themselves). They only started locking the door to preschool this year, after Christmas, and now there's a video doorbell you have to ring to get in (though they still let in my brother, a complete stranger, when he went to pick DS up and didn't ask who he was or why he was there until he was inside the classroom which makes the doorbell seem a bit pointless)

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 11/04/2025 09:22

Poppymeldrum · 11/04/2025 09:12

Yes,I did

Loudly

But my mother is a narcissist and will twist any story to suit herself

In this case she denied any wrong doing ('I wouldnt have left my babies!')

Then,when that failed,the tears came and then anger

My father backed her up ('we would never have left you!') and my brothers clearly remembered,but didn't want to rock the boat so claimed they didn't remember

I got endless people having a go at me for 'upsetting your mum with your lies'

Best laugh is,they went back out the following night

And the rest of the week-and again the following year

At least 5 miles away,no mobile phones,no way of contacting them-no thought about us

But nope,never happened apparently

(Every morning,after breakfast full English for them to mop up the hangover,we'd be dragged to the beach for 10 hours with no buckets or spades,or even a paddle in the sea while they slept off their hangovers,sat snoozing in their deckchairs-rinse and repeat all week)

I remember taking mine on a caravan holiday one year,and I left the kids asleep in their beds while I walked round the side of the caravan to bring some washing in-I was 30/40 seconds

This got back to her and she threatened to phone ss for leaving them!

Unbelievable. There's a group on Facebook called "boomers mistaking childhood trauma for precious memories" and it's full of stuff like this, and much worse.
I wonder if they are outright lying or if time and regret has distorted things into something different for them?

BeatleBattleInABottle · 11/04/2025 09:23

Sitting in car footwells.
I get horrendously car sick. For some reason squashing myself up into the footwell behind the front seats, really helped with that.

Enigma53 · 11/04/2025 09:28

Inhaling tippex
Letting some random neighbours kids take my ( then) baby brother for a walk somewhere!
Having loads of older kids to play and then buying cigarettes for them and their parents (??) 🙈
Some of the pervvy teachers, jee whizz. The art teacher had naked p3 women pinned up in his room and he would help you with your art, over a cigarette and a mars bar!

Natsku · 11/04/2025 09:30

Thoughtsonstuff · 11/04/2025 09:09

So true. I was born in the early 70s and on a rainy day would watch raindrops on the window for hours to see which would hit the bottom first. Or watch the dust motes if it was sunny. I also out of desperation started reading the Bible just for the rude bits (disappointing, if anyone is thinking of doing similar).

I used to look for the rude bits in the bible in church to pass the time

Poppymeldrum · 11/04/2025 09:32

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 11/04/2025 09:22

Unbelievable. There's a group on Facebook called "boomers mistaking childhood trauma for precious memories" and it's full of stuff like this, and much worse.
I wonder if they are outright lying or if time and regret has distorted things into something different for them?

In her case,if she says it's true,it's true

I've seen her do/say some shocking shit (she's broken up marriages and got innocent people into trouble)

My father will back her up and so will her golden children sons (and her narc mates will too)

She firmly believes she's telling the truth even though it can be proved she's lying

She doubles down and for some reason,she's believed!

It's a skill-it really is

FoxLoxInSox · 11/04/2025 09:44

Tarmac under all climbing frames / slides etc, to ensure maximum numbers of fractured skulls and arms, and optimise the amount of tiny black pebbles to be tweezered out of flesh wounds by school secretaries with non-sterile blunt tweezers, before being sent back to class with a wad of wet paper towels in lieu of a dressing.

Once back in class, pain levels were managed by the inhalation of solvent-based markers and Tippex.

I miss the 80’s 😭

Enigma53 · 11/04/2025 09:47

FoxLoxInSox · 11/04/2025 09:44

Tarmac under all climbing frames / slides etc, to ensure maximum numbers of fractured skulls and arms, and optimise the amount of tiny black pebbles to be tweezered out of flesh wounds by school secretaries with non-sterile blunt tweezers, before being sent back to class with a wad of wet paper towels in lieu of a dressing.

Once back in class, pain levels were managed by the inhalation of solvent-based markers and Tippex.

I miss the 80’s 😭

Edited

🤣🤣 that is so so true!!
The blunt tweezers appeared out of non medically trained secretaries bag. No mention of sepsis at all!

Enigma53 · 11/04/2025 09:53

In primary school, our teacher was a huge rounders fan. We had the choice on a Friday afternoon, to either play rounders or with “ shed equipment”
( stilts, skipping ropes, hoops). Said teacher would then disappear onto the field, whilst the “ shed kids” would spend hours unsupervised, running in and out of school through the hedge in the playground!

Happy days 😊

Chocoholicnightmare · 11/04/2025 10:00

Primary school teacher smoking out of the classroom window and another with a kettle in the classroom to make hot drinks. This was the mid 90s!

MistyWater · 11/04/2025 10:17

ItGhoul · 10/04/2025 14:43

There were no rear seat belts at all in cars when I was a kid and it was also considered perfectly OK for young kids to ride in the boot space of an estate car. Babies on car journeys were usually just carried on a parent’s lap.

Guests used to smoke throughout interviews on TV chat shows, discussion panels etc.

At my primary school we had shopping monitors who, aged 9-10, would be sent off alone to the high street at lunch time with some money and a shopping list, to pick up any shopping the teachers needed. I can still recall that one of our teachers was really fussy about her preferred brand of margarine.

One of the play activities on offer at my infant school was a sort of woodwork area in a little courtyard where kids aged 4 were allowed to use hammers, nails, saws and chisels entirely unsupervised on random wood offcuts.

We also had a PE teacher who used to call us ‘spastic’ if we fumbled a catch in netball or failed to jump a vaulting horse. I was also once hit so hard by a rounders ball on PE that I was out cold for two or three minutes. The only medical attention sought for this was a wet paper towel held on to the lump that came up. No concussion check, was not sent home, parents not notified. I just got sent back to the changing rooms to sit out the rest of the lesson and then carried on with the school day.

My nursery school was like this! Apparently I was very put out when I went to reception and I wasn’t allowed a hammer or saw anymore!

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 11/04/2025 10:39

Wet paper towels solved any medical drama.

twoshedsjackson · 11/04/2025 12:13

Talk of teachers throwing board rubbers reminds me of a famous legend at one school where I taught music; I never witnessed it myself. but met the alleged perpetrator at reunions, and it seems perfectly possible, given his temperament! He also coached the cricket team (relevant)
As a class filed in for a sing-song, one boy was still bouncing the ball he had been playing with at breaktime, which was promptly confiscated until the end of the lesson and placed on top of the piano.
The lesson was in full flow when he spotted two lads at the back yakking away and ignoring the lesson. Without stopping to think (probably how he managed it) and not wishing to break the musical flow on said piano, he picked up the tennis ball, chucked it at the miscreant's head, whist still playing the piano with one hand. It bounced off his little skull and back to the front, where he caught it and put it back on the piano lid.
The recipient of the blow was slow to register that he had been struck, so engrossed was he in his conversation, and by the time he registered the fact, the ball was back in place at the front of the classroom.
I fear my music lessons lacked that edge of excitement by comparison.

BlackeyedSusan · 11/04/2025 12:27

Seatbelts not compulsory and if they were fitted you had to adjust them to your size.

Sleeping on the back seat of the car going on holiday. Laying down. No seatbelts.

No head protectors on the back of the seats to prevent neck injuries.

Coat hangers for ariels

Kids getting the ruler in school. Being smacked by teachers.

Getting lifts in head teachers car.

Kids fetching fags from the shop .

Going out to play and walking to the next village crossing a 70 mph road.

Roaming miles on bikes in woodland on the tip.

Playing on the road. Ok until the dad's came home from work with the cars.

Exploring half built houses. Playing in building foundations.

Only having an outside toilet. (Out the one door, across the back and up the side of another house. Across the road. Past the nettles and the neighbours toilet. Mind the spiders)

Kids sharing bedrooms.

The witches hat set over concrete.

Flammable nighties

Cookers that got hot on the outside.

Pilot lights on cookers that were hot and occasionally blew out.

Walking to school on your own age 5.

Letting yourself in the house from age 7. Cooking a snack. Trying to get the burnt beans out the pan as you watched TV.

Staying home alone if sick off school.

Aspirin for kids.

Gripe water with alcohol in.

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