TW - gaslighting.
Advice please!
My ex moved 1-1.5 hrs away (to live with family) and so far we have been sharing pick up and drop off for our son.
I have decided that I no longer want to share the responsibility, as I am now working and take all responsibility for our son (11 months old).
He has him overnight once a week 12pm-6pm the next day, however I bathe him, do all night feeds, nursery runs, hospital apps, buying of clothes, toys, washing, food etc and I am only on a part time wage.
I have to pack his bag for his dads with clothes, toys, nappies, wipes etc to take with him.
He does give me money for him, but I literally drop him off and all he has to do is entertain him and feed him then give him back. Sometimes I have been stuck on the m25 and spent anywhere between 3-6 hours doing the round trip on my day off having my son, whereas he has the whole week and part of his weekend to do whatever he wants.
Am I being reasonable that I ask him to do both drop off and pick up?
I suggested it and he started gaslighting me and making me feel guilty, then said he will only have him every other weekend now.
He also said that surely I should have weighed all this up before deciding to keep our son....
P.s we are currently going through family court to try and set a schedule because he was emotionally abusive towards me during our relationship and on occasion cancelled our son or messed up timings when we argued