AIBU to feel like trash after this encounter a week ago?

[ByDenimMentor]

I work as an accountant specialised in business sales and had an introductory meeting with a new client a week ago who wanted help selling a business valued at 30 million of which he owns half. This isn't uncommon but what set him apart was that he looked to be 25 at most, called me darling a couple of times and near the end when we discussed the plan going forward called me "good girl".

It took me aback and I didn't say anything at the time but I've now spent a week feeling terrible about this, not just about the comment itself but my whole life really. A first class degree from oxbridge, averaging 50 hour weeks for the last 30 years, endless stress just to get called pet names by someone half my age and far wealthier than I will ever be.

I just can't stop thinking about it but I'm not sure if I'm overreacting. AIBU?

Multiple screaming orgasms and the best sex we’ve had ever apparently. All from, “good girl”.

And many of us women folk have a “Praise Kink” which, from what I gather, is actually just enjoying being complimented by the person we’re in a relationship with.

Alternate weird little universe.

😡 call him "good boy" in return.

Honestly as someone who works in a male-dominated environment in a very macho, ‘direct’ market, my advice is don’t sweat the small stuff. Let arrogant pricks be arrogant pricks and swiftly move on. Certainly don’t dwell on what you ‘should have said’. Well done on palming him off to a colleague though.

Agree, pass the little prick on and stop letting him get under your skin. It was offensive but to take the sting out of re-imagine him as a comedy figure. I'm reminded of the medium in the film Ghost, only instead of a dead husband, he appears to be channelling a 1965 Cockney gangster-wannabe. He's just some fool.

I agree with this. I'd just laugh at what a dick he was

The condescending language used is unreasonable from him, particularly in a professional environment. However, after reading your updates about making the effort to research his background and finding out that it’s seemingly a self-made success story, it sound like the bigger issue is that it’s caused you to reevaluate your own career and whether you’ve made the most of opportunities.

You probably have made the most. You just have to accept that some super-high achievers have an X-factor or incredible talent that’s not necessarily recognised academically.