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Am I expecting too much

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Chickencuddle · 09/04/2025 20:17

I'm feeling so overwhelmed. I have too much on i think. I work until 2 every day in a school. Then I pick up kids at 3 different times. Help them with homework cook nutritious dinners. Read with them all bath etc and get them all to bed. I also have another small side job and I'm doing a diploma.
I just feel I have no support from husband he is self employed and working alot. He leaves at 8am and getting home around 9pm every night sometimes later. He has weekends off nd he does help at weekends. But because we are used to it I just end up doing most things.
I've been telling him I'm really overwhelmed this course I'm doing has lot of written work due in soon and I can't find time to do it. There's not really a solution but I think I'd just like to talk to him. And have some comfort or some kind of attempt at help.
I completed a practical exam recently which I was so nervous for and the teacher messaged me to say the examiner HD been very impressed with me and I'd done very well and to go celebrate. Husband was going to conert so I just did same old getting kids to bed. I guess I feel lonely. He just said aww well done. But that was it. Think I just felt sd seeing thr others going out celebrating with their family.
Then my friend saw me and said well done and gave me a big hug and said she was proud. He ws like why? Then she told him and he was like oh yeah. Then started going on bout things he was really good at nd hugging the friend loads. It felt a bit strange. But I just laughed it off.
I just sometimes feel like he doesn't care. But mye it's just the way he shows things or I'm too high maintenance.
He's got home early today and he said he wanted to go watch. Local game. He took but I said this would be a good time for some help. I'll be doing dinner and getting 2 other kids to bed. Then have to no doubt deal with son when he gets in. He said I was just thinkingnof myself. He also said I'm narcissist. Maybe I am.

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itsmeits · 09/04/2025 20:26

Okay deep breath.
He can take an early finish to watch a match but not his kids! Really.
Tell him - don't ask -that on Saturday/Sunday he is watching the kids as you have work to do. If you get called a narcissist for this, then i think you will be perfectly happy and capable without the man child.
You are working and studying holding it together, it's easier without living with the person you resent also.

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