To think this isn't a normal reaction?

[TheTwoZees]

Went down to the bottom of the road to post a letter, came back up to a family member in a lot of pain as they had shut their thumb in the car door and pulled the nail off.
Provided plasters and got given a barrage of abuse that the reason the accident had happened was because of me and my "bad energy". I said "don't be ridiculous, I wasn't even present when it happened so how is it my fault?" To be shouted at between the crying for not even caring and being self absorbed.

I'm just totally taken aback. I don't understand how it's my fault this family member trapped their thumb in their door and I certainly don't know what my "bad energy" is.

For context, family member is an adult.

I can sympathise that it was extremely painful and that pain makes people act out but I think it's unfair to then blame someone else and then insult them and storm out?

Are they struggling with low mood in general or resenting you for something else completely? Could the the thumb thing have been the straw that broke the camels back?

Obviously the bad energy thing is bollocks and you didn't cause this.

Their reaction was ridiculous, you didn't shut their bloody thumb in the door and neither did your "bad energy" whatever that is. I'd be withdrawing my sympathy and leaving them to it.

As a short term response to intense pain that sounds unpleasant for you but not beyond the pale. It's not your fault, obvs, and you have been helpful and patient. Wait for the painkillers to take effect.

Intense pain can make people (temporarily) irrational. Long ago, as a teen, I shut my thumb in a car door. It was excruiating. I can still remember being in a semi-conscious daze for hours afterwards.

Yes I can sympathise that the pain was intense and most likely made the reaction irrational. Last year I stood bare foot on an upturned plug and the pain was something else. I actually have a scar on the bottom of my foot from where it penetrated.
I remember feeling snappish at my other half at the time as the pain was so intense but I certainly didn't unleash hell and insult him then storm off.

I just feel a bit shocked and upset as some really unpleasant things were said about me.

I agree that there must have been festering resentment there that was unleashed when the accident happened.

(Other half isn't the family member referred to in the OP)

My partner hit me on the head with a metal bedframe during a particularly arduous bed assembly this weekend. I was cross but it was not malicious and I did not verbally abuse them. I self regulated and moved on, as an adult should.

Please let us know if there is any ways you can use your mind to perform acts of telekinesis or enact petty revenges with your mood? Or whether your relative thinks this was a one off manifestation of your powers?

They are a crank.

When they're not in pain are they generally narcissistic and emotionally abusive?

@MoveYourSelfDearie
Unfortunately yes.

I do this I'm not sure why but only for about 30 seconds. I also get mad at people when they hurt themselves again only a sudden reaction

Then it's a normal reaction for them and utterly ridiculous for a normal person. Feel free to laugh/roll your eyes/distance yourself as you're able

And look after yourself, people like this are a special kind of hell 💐

Welp, that’ll be it then. Narcs gonna narc. Just grey rock them.

You'll never please them and if anything goes wrong it's always your fault.

I didn't think this could be your fault OP but as I was reading your messages i stubbed my toe on the bed frame. I think the toe and thumb were both your fault and I also blame your bad energy.

Fuck that I wouldn't tolerate that for a second.
One thing to shout the place down for a few seconds if you're in physical pain, I'd forgive that. Making it someone else's problem is abusive. Also attributing it to someone else's "energy" is a) stupid and b) an example of someone failing to take responsibility for their own actions.

@neverknowinglyunreasonable My bad energy must be so powerful. I should learn how to harness it and use it against my foes.