Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To be fed up of flakiness

13 replies

GreenYodaFace · 09/04/2025 17:19

I swear!
The last 2 months the following has happened...
Arranged for activity with work 10 agreed but 9 pulled out the days leading up so cancelled it.
Friend moved 20 minutes away cancelled twice seeing us. Once because she'd double booked and once due to illness
Offered to have school mums kids due to her working over the holidays. Arranged activities only for her to text me that her mum has decided she's taking the kids away that night so they can't come.

I just feel like not bothering again.

OP posts:
Original poster
GreenYodaFace · 09/04/2025 18:21

😃

OP posts:
EmeraldRoulette · 09/04/2025 20:34

You have my sympathies

Between flakiness and ghosting and general weirdness, I think I might have to give up on friendship. Although that's not necessarily a bad thing in my case.

I heard from a 30 something professional contact today. She's been on honeymoon. She said she had quite a few no-shows for her wedding and with no explanation, including family.

It seems this is where society is now.

Original poster
GreenYodaFace · 09/04/2025 21:34

Honestly it's so rude.

OP posts:
londongirl12 · 09/04/2025 21:52

Yeah I just wouldn’t bother with these people anymore. It seems to happen more often.

BlondeMummyto1 · 09/04/2025 21:54

People have developed the flakiest attitudes. Once upon a time you would have to show up but now nobody wants to do anything.

Original poster
GreenYodaFace · 09/04/2025 22:31

I just think don't over commit yourself then or say yes when you want to say no! The thing is these people still want you to be loyal.

OP posts:
Original poster
GreenYodaFace · 09/04/2025 22:35

EmeraldRoulette · 09/04/2025 20:34

You have my sympathies

Between flakiness and ghosting and general weirdness, I think I might have to give up on friendship. Although that's not necessarily a bad thing in my case.

I heard from a 30 something professional contact today. She's been on honeymoon. She said she had quite a few no-shows for her wedding and with no explanation, including family.

It seems this is where society is now.

Who doesn't turn up to a bloody wedding ?

OP posts:
EmeraldRoulette · 09/04/2025 23:43

@BlondeMummyto1 spot on

@GreenYodaFace I hate weddings but if I RSVP yes, then I'm there.

I presume the family members who didn't turn up are distant family members.

People cannot be arsed to do anything anymore. I guess the people who didn't show up couldn't even be bothered to make up an excuse. She did have to chase a lot for RSVPs as well.

I don't think people are over committing themselves. I think they're sitting at home glued to the Internet.

Original poster
GreenYodaFace · 10/04/2025 09:46

How sad. I fear for my son as he gets older if his generation are the digital generation! He needs human contact so much !

OP posts:
Shirkingly · 10/04/2025 09:51

Being devil’s advocate — a work event, depending what it is (during work hours? Social event? Training?) is different to cancelling on a friend last-minute. Your friend who moved away only cancelled once, surely, as you can’t honestly blame her for bringing ill? And the school mother whose children you offered to have while she worked presumably thought she was doing you a favour by offloading childcare onto someone else?

Original poster
GreenYodaFace · 10/04/2025 10:28

Shirkingly · 10/04/2025 09:51

Being devil’s advocate — a work event, depending what it is (during work hours? Social event? Training?) is different to cancelling on a friend last-minute. Your friend who moved away only cancelled once, surely, as you can’t honestly blame her for bringing ill? And the school mother whose children you offered to have while she worked presumably thought she was doing you a favour by offloading childcare onto someone else?

Not really. All of my work mates asked me to organise it. Friend who moved away lies about being ill. School mum has form so no more help.

OP posts:
PassingStranger · 10/04/2025 10:46

No can't say I've experienced this with friends.
I do remember school.parties being a bit of a nightmare though.
People don't always reply or turn up.

I also use to organise a monthly event. I wouldn't be an organiser again, let someone else do it.

Original poster
GreenYodaFace · 10/04/2025 11:05

Yeah I've given up

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page