AIBU? We moved from south to the midlands (me and husband) for various reasons (mainly to be near my elderly mother) one reason was because daughter had left home and so had son.
we live overlooking fields front and back, we have spent probably £20k renovating and the house is turn key condition. We craned in the hot tub at a massive cost too.
I don’t know what it is but I have anxiety they will build on the fields at the back which is green belt (this is not a named location on the housing site allocations 2023-2041) but I know a developer was pushing the site a few years ago and they decided on another site in another town for urban extension.
we have lovely neighbours so this is not an issue.
i am missing the south, my daughters plans didn’t work out and she is now living with us here which was not the plan ! I don’t think id have moved from South if she was going to be living with us as I feel I panicked and had empty nest syndrome so wanted to be near my mum (although I didn’t know at the time that my mum wouldn’t drive up our house due to a few big roundabouts so now it’s a bit of a pain and I wished I had moved to her town)
my husband has spent so much effort on the decorating and garden plus a new driveway so a lot of money.
my son is still down the south and I regret leaving him but at the time I was excited at the new adventure. It’s not quite what I envisioned (being near family and old friends) but I see my mum loads so that’s great.
if I move back south my mum will be devastated, if I move nearer her it’s going to be expensive again and if I stay here I just have this awful anxiety they will build on the fields. I am a worrier anyway.
I keep thinking we will stay for 10 years and then go back (we can go back because we bought like for like up here so that’s an option) but now I worry I’m wishing 10 years will hurry up
I just need to off load.
AIBU?
I love my mum and love seeing her
i miss my son down south
I’m worrying there will be an urban extension on the doorstep (can they change the named potential sites on a housing future strategy document?)